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Tell us your definitive "I really should not do this" moment. (sopuli.xyz)
submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Ever had one those moments in life when you know, beyond any shadow of a doubt, you are making a very, very bad decision, with a great chance for instant regret and a miserable, probably long lasting, outcome and notheless followed that path?

Yeah, that one. Care to share with us?

I'll start. I dated a person, after we had already dated for a very short time, during which I was cheated on and eventually was left for a fourth person.

Yeah, not my brightest moment. And yes, I was cheated on again and again was left for another person.

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[โ€“] 128 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Having kids. I love my kids, but if I could go back and not have them I absolutely would. Never have kids until you're financially comfortable. Fuck, the struggle is fucking real.

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  • [โ€“] 50 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I really admire the honesty and bravery it took to write this comment. Thank you for sharing.

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  • [โ€“] 17 points 2 years ago

    It is a sad reality that I hate even thinking about. I love these little bastards to pieces, but the money thing is killing me. I'm in a spot where I'm "too rich" to qualify for any government help and too poor to be able to afford it on my own.

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  • [โ€“] 12 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

    My wife and I had a similar conversation the other day. The kids were being a handful, and she said, "Why do people even have kids?"

    And I said it's because society lies to you. "You'll never feel emotionally/mentally/financially ready for kids. Just do it!"

    I always tell people that you need to be 110% sure. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything, but I sure do miss the quiet, free time, and extra money.

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  • [โ€“] 4 points 2 years ago

    "You'll never feel emotionally/mentally/financially ready for kids. Just do it!"

    That's basically the biggest lie/bullshit you can ever hear. You can always be ready for kids. I just need $75+k a year and I'll be more than happy.

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I feel this. I still don't have kids of my own, but my parents had some rough patches which I hope I learn from and don't repeat; thankfully I only realised most of that when I grew up.

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