Do you honestly think men come with tell-tale signs of being a rapist or a sexual assaulter? I knew my best friend for half a decade, and despite his left-leaning views and overall progressiveness, he still did some shit to me--another gay man--while I slept and without my consent.
I mean, should we apply your logic to sexual assault victims, too? "You should've known! Didn't you hang out with him all week?" Of course not, people mask, and there's noise in trying to make that judgment. What is this line of thinking, honestly?