▲ 61 ▼ Why do narcissists have such fragile egos? (lemmy.world) submitted 11 months ago by TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world 29 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[+] Photuris@lemmy.ml 23 points 11 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 2 points 11 months ago (1 child) Of course, not playing can also be something they view as hostile. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whaleross@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago (2 children) Grey rocking is the best strategy to get rid of all annoying people. Do not engage, do not give them any fuel, do not give them any satisfaction. Be as boring and unexciting as you can possibly be until they lose interest in you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] Photuris@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 point 11 months ago This is probably true for most people who are mentally healthy, but what I'm pointing out is that for someone who feeds on attention, not engaging with them can feel like such a personal attack that they may put a huge amount of time and energy into destroying your life to pay you back for the insult. I've never personally seen any successful way of dealing with narcissistic people that you can't choose to avoid. permalink fedilink source parent [–] TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip 1 point 11 months ago* Hmm... That is a good point. Seems like a risky experiment. The idea with this test setup is based on the idea that the result could potentially provide new information instead of just confirming what I already believe to be true. An inferior experiment would just involve mild flattery, but that can only result in confirmation bias instead of rejecting a hypothesis. Not my favorite type of experiment. I guess a more passive observational approach is the way to go in this case. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 2 points 11 months ago (1 child) Of course, not playing can also be something they view as hostile. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whaleross@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago (2 children) Grey rocking is the best strategy to get rid of all annoying people. Do not engage, do not give them any fuel, do not give them any satisfaction. Be as boring and unexciting as you can possibly be until they lose interest in you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] Photuris@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 point 11 months ago This is probably true for most people who are mentally healthy, but what I'm pointing out is that for someone who feeds on attention, not engaging with them can feel like such a personal attack that they may put a huge amount of time and energy into destroying your life to pay you back for the insult. I've never personally seen any successful way of dealing with narcissistic people that you can't choose to avoid. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] whaleross@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago (2 children) Grey rocking is the best strategy to get rid of all annoying people. Do not engage, do not give them any fuel, do not give them any satisfaction. Be as boring and unexciting as you can possibly be until they lose interest in you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] Photuris@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 point 11 months ago This is probably true for most people who are mentally healthy, but what I'm pointing out is that for someone who feeds on attention, not engaging with them can feel like such a personal attack that they may put a huge amount of time and energy into destroying your life to pay you back for the insult. I've never personally seen any successful way of dealing with narcissistic people that you can't choose to avoid. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Photuris@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 point 11 months ago This is probably true for most people who are mentally healthy, but what I'm pointing out is that for someone who feeds on attention, not engaging with them can feel like such a personal attack that they may put a huge amount of time and energy into destroying your life to pay you back for the insult. I've never personally seen any successful way of dealing with narcissistic people that you can't choose to avoid. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip 1 point 11 months ago* Hmm... That is a good point. Seems like a risky experiment. The idea with this test setup is based on the idea that the result could potentially provide new information instead of just confirming what I already believe to be true. An inferior experiment would just involve mild flattery, but that can only result in confirmation bias instead of rejecting a hypothesis. Not my favorite type of experiment. I guess a more passive observational approach is the way to go in this case. permalink fedilink source parent