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[–] 13 points 1 year ago* (5 children)

Not sure if I want more parental involvement from the kind of guy who wants military aesthetic everything, but I get what you mean. I guess everyone’s style will be cringe to somebody

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    My kid has been wearing 2nd hand metal shirts for about 15 years. That was also the aesthetic when we made quilts for him as a baby.

    I gotta imagine there’s people out there laying heavy judgment on that decision. We think it’s hilarious. Poor dude was like 13 the first time I got a call about a Cattle Decap shirt he was wearing. I guess, technically it was sacrilegious but I appreciated him self advocating and pointing out a “guns, god, country” shirt another kid had on.

    Thanks for attending my ramble about judging people’s parenting fashion.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago

    If it gets dad interacting, and bonding with the baby, it's good for both of them.

    For most buyers, it will be a minor statement "I chose to be a hands on dad". For certain demographics, that's a big deal.

    I put it in the same category as bright pink tool kits. They look slightly silly, but get people involved.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    I don't think the military style is the issue per se, rather than a society that is heavily gender coded, to the point that men who want to get involved with their kids find themselves constantly using female coded gear, which is a constant reminder that "you're doing a female task!" and only pushes them away / attracts ridicule.
    Let them fucking have this. It's baby steps, you know?

    I'm lucky France isn't in the hands of Y'allqaeda just yet, and that I ain't worried I'll catch the gay if I wear the wrong colour, but I can't imagine what it's like in the US, honestly.

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago (1 child)

    men who want to get involved with their kids find themselves constantly using female coded gear

    This isn't an issue with baby carriers. Look at the top results on Amazon. They're mostly black or grey. Sure, more than 90% of the images with a parental figure show a woman, but the items themselves aren't "gender coded".

    Given that, the idea here is that carrying around a baby is itself a gender-coded activity, so men need to use gender-affirming clothing to emphasize that they're not women by buying something that looks similar to what a soldier might wear. That's what's fucking stupid. Just buy the standard black baby carrier. I promise 90% of the world won't think you're less of a man because you're caring for your offspring.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Pretty much.

    Rainbow shirt - ugly looks by conservatives.

    Camouflage pattern shirt - ugly looks by the hippies.

    Cthulhu shirt - ugly looks by the Christians.

    SUPREME shirt - ugly looks by society.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago* (2 children)

    What about a diaper bag with the UNSC logo on it and a baby bjorn that says "player 3 🎮"?

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I mean I’d take one of these

    And one for the Texans

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