I'm autistic enough to fuck me over but not autistic enough to get any real benefit.

Normie here. Those two phrases can mean the same thing. There's a lot of body language processing and behavior processing that all gets lumped into someones "look", if they say "you're too normal" it means the same thing as "you don't look autistic".

You could probably get nitty gritty and find that someone who is more familiar with you might be more likely to say "you're too normal" because they are basing it off of more than just appearances, but in the long run it's all just based on observations anyway and certain cultures might lean toward one phrase over the other.

na, thankfully i look normal. you seem the be a rare kombination.