I encourage advocation. Just... please try not to trample bystanders in the process.
Go back and re-read my post, and then please tell me, how was I trampling anyone?
I'm just trying to make sense of everything.
This isn't what "trying to make sense of everything" looks like. That would consist of asking questions. You aren't asking questions though, you're putting in a large amount of effort to tell me that actually, I'm the problem.