Hold on, you think GrapheneOS isn't perfectly private (and you'd be right, it isn't, and their main focus is security anyway) but you think iPhones are better?
Why, because Apple told you it is? Because they have some gimmicks that sound good on paper but don't actually protect your data in any real way?
Okay dude. Reach out to me whenever cus i got a bridge to sell you.
Also, everything you said is incorrect, and so is your conclusion. But I don't think we'll ever see eye to eye on this so why bother.