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[–] 121 points 2 years ago (24 children)

I don't want to sound like an incel, and I like eating vag/salad as much as the next guy, but imagine this image with the genders reversed

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  • [–] 56 points 2 years ago* (2 children)

    IMO either party doing this is fine as long as it's discussed and within the comfort bounds of the people in the relationship.

    I think the problem is an expectation when there has been no discussion about whether or not it's within someone's limits.

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  • [–] 61 points 2 years ago (11 children)

    I have no issue with oral sex between consenting adults. But this meme would not be as well received if the genders were reversed. It's hard to even imagine someone posting "always be there for your man in a time of crisis" with the woman going down on the guy.

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  • [–] 21 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    I can only speak for myself but I wouldn't really mind it the other way around as long as there's no implied use of force or manipulation.

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  • [–] 22 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Feel free to reverse the genders & post this on twitter then. Getting banned from the internet speedrun any%

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  • [–] 13 points 2 years ago*

    I believe "consenting" is key here.

    The reason why it's taboo if the genders were reversed is because there is a long and well documented history of non-consent when genders are reversed.

    Was there non-consent where gals are forcing guys? Very likely. However what evidence I've seen suggests this is dwarfed by guys forcing gals.

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  • [–] 42 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    I agree that it would look quite different with the genders reversed. However, gender equality is not like mathematical equality, where every situation needs to be reversible.

    Women have traditionally been less sex-positive and less dominant, which many consider indicators of a lack of true gender equality, so a progressive community will celebrate a reversal of that.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    But situations regarding the handling of power dynamics and standards of consent/coercion absolutely should be reversible.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago*

    Well, consent is non-negotiable. I understood the comic as depicting a consenting couple.

    As for power dynamics, I'm certainly not on board with her having communicated, she had an emergency. That is just disrespectful. But that one looks bad on both genders.
    The existence of power dynamics in a relationship in general always looks bad, for both sides, in my opinion.

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  • [–] 26 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Nothing wrong with a consenting partner

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  • [–] 15 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Everyone here will pretend they would be fine with it now that you called out the hypocrisy. Or they'll argue men deserve it as some kind of "payback", in which case it's really not about equality of course.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I'm sorry, they'll argue that men deserve what as a form of payback? Cause you're phrasing it like there's some kind of discrmination or persecution against men going on here and I fail to see it.

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