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[–] 151 points 2 years ago (3 children)

You should never propose if you are not 100% sure the answer is yes. You talk about it before. The only thing that should be a surprise is where and how you propose.

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  • [–] 32 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I agree, but I would also add "the particulars of when" to the list of surprising qualities.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

    To be fair — if I talked to my hypothetical pilot boyfriend and agreed I would marry him and then he proposes on a flight he pilots, in front of all the passengers, I might say No no matter what we discussed previously. Because that would certainly make me question the whole relationship.

    There can never be a 100% sure while the where and how to propose is still open, since it includes a lot of scenarios that range from uncomfortable to batshit insane.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Hopefully your hypothetical pilot boyfriend would understand that about you before proposing and not do such a thing.

    Presumably in the OP, he had a sense of what would be exciting for her.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago

    That was kinda my point. If you rely on the fact that your boyfriend or girlfriend understands you well enough that they wouldn't do a proposal that makes you feel uncomfortable, then them doing something like that might be a deal breaker or at least not an immediate yes. Because it would make you rethink whether they really understand you. But we're probably getting lost in hypotheticals here. As long as everyone involved in the OP was happy, I'm happy for them.

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