That’s good of you. My ex wouldn’t acknowledge the existence of any problems at all. Like, our sex sucked, and she said it was great, then went and cheated.

If she’d done what you do — acknowledge and help tackle the problem — it could have been awesome. But she just refused to acknowledge anything was wrong.

Your approach says “You’re not there but you can get there”.

Her approach said “You’re hopeless”.

Before that relationship my confidence was fine and I was fine too. It really did a number on my head to have her lie to me about something so important.