Short answer, yes I removed the nginx container from the lemmy compose file. I followed this guide if it helps: https://www.reddit.com/r/nginxproxymanager/comments/1485y0d/getting_lemmy_running_with_a_separate_nginx_proxy/

I did manual docker. I host some other things as well, so running it through nginx proxy manager that I already had set up.

I finally moved from reddit to Lemmy. maybe a 3-4 hour set up time to get it all working lol.