[–] 1 point 2 months ago (1 child)

First of all, wearing tube socks inside out was revelatory for me. No seam problems, no texture problems, etc. AFAIK Hanes still makes mostly-cotton socks. Buy them in person, not online. Inside out socks is a general practice for me, not just around the house.

Secondly, I have opted for a pair of extremely comfortable indoor-only shoes. I got a pair of no-laces sketchers that go in and off with no hands. I got mine as a gift but if they’re expensive, the next best option is $10 “kung fu” slippers (like everyone wears in old Bruce Lee movies) — get rubber-soled ones if you have a lot of carpeting; cotton soles are better (more comfy, more breathable), but you’ll slip around on the carpet. And get them at least one size bigger, maybe 2.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    The dynamic width thing is huge… so many notifications spend their precious initial width on boilerplate bs, I’ll give it a shot…

    tho tbh all I really need is a full screen, undismissable thing for when my battery is dying.. other notifications are very lovely but the number of times I’ve only realized I was low on battery when my computer starts shutting down is… a lot.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Dear Quexotic,

    I’m writing you today to let you know that I, also, relate to the original poster. I appreciate that we have this in common.

    Additionally, I wanted to express that, the thing that you have done here, I see it. While some might disagree, I found it pleasantly subtle, and, due to its nature, subtlety often doesn’t get the recognition it deserves.

    In this case, I felt this mode of expression would both build upon the humorous twist embedded in your message, but also afford the opportunity to pronounce my admiration for that cleverness, even though it may be a minor moment in both of our lives.

    With my warmest regards,

    Jeremy “JP” Parker

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    I got diagnosed with adhd in 2009, and tried meds for a while (vyvanse ftl), but I couldn’t sleep, so I stopped. Then I got distracted and forgot I had it. Got re-diagnosed, along with autism, in like 2022 or something. I’m on adderall now and it’s fine I guess.

    I was 40 years old when the puzzle pieces of my life finally started to come together.

    (I know a lot of autistic people don’t love the old puzzle piece logo, but for me, it’s the most apt metaphor I’ve ever seen.)

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  • [–] 1 point 3 months ago

    This. I didn’t work in hospitality for very long, and I wasn’t the most gracious or understanding undiagnosed autistic person out there, and even I didn’t really give a shit.

    Side note: As a bus boy at a very fancy restaurant, I had a little “crumber” for scraping up crumbs, and I didn’t, like, want to marry the crumbs, but, the way the crumber glided across the white cotton tablecloth, which had that soft but firm feel that you can only achieve after a thousand washings…

    Let’s just say, you can put up with a lot of shit when you know you got that glide in your future.

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  • [–] 0 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    I locked myself out of the house this morning. The weather app on my phone said it “felt like” -2 degrees, and I agree with it.

    I had my coat and hat, but my legs were underprepared, I was wearing sweatpants without long underwear.

    My wife was at work about a mile away and she didn’t see my texts for about a half hour. I could’ve walked to her work in that time, but I was so paralyzed by the situation that I couldn’t do it.

    (We live in a big city, we walk or bike everywhere, or take trains when it’s far. Walking to her work is normal…but cold is cold.)

    I have “a thing” about not wearing clothes like that outside, and I’ve only ever done it once or twice, I just went out to bring my kid to school a few blocks away… I have a lot of “things.” And I don’t deal with crises super well; my actions tend to be ok but my communication fails.

    So anyway, I eventually got frustrated with my wife’s lack of response and I texted her in a frustrated tone. If the situation was reversed, I would’ve raced back home to save her, and if I had missed the texts, I would’ve been apologetic, and more than understanding if she was frustrated.

    She said I should’ve called instead of texting, but I couldn’t talk. She called me and I tried to tell her I couldn’t talk but she insisted. I ended up hanging up on her, which is…not good. She wouldn’t listen, “I don’t want to text” she said. She’s very verbally oriented; she spends like half her time on the phone with her sister or her mother. I prefer being quiet, and I frequently just can’t.

    I had immediately apologized for my frustrated tone and for hanging up; I learned to apologize a long time ago and I mean it when I do it.

    It felt like she didn’t want to have to go out in the cold, take time out of work, and go through the effort of coming to help me. I get that, it was very cold, but.., idk, I guess sometimes you do it anyway? It felt like she was using my rudeness as an excuse to not help or to be mad about helping.

    I had gone out to drop off my kid without my keys, but we have a garage door and a little keypad for it. I knew I didn’t have my keys but I also knew i had a fallback. The batteries in the keypad had been dying for a while, which made it not work in the cold; the problem was resolved — until today.

    She called again, I think just to yell at me. She had already texted telling me she had left work and was headed home to help; she didn’t call to tell me that. She was furious on the phone. I hung up on her when she said she hated me. I think hanging up on her may be the most egregious offense; I try not to do it, I know she hates it, but idk, I guess sometimes you do it anyway?

    I tried warming up the keypad with my hands; I alternated hands, one under my shirt on my bare stomach to warm up while the other hand exhausted its warmth on the keypad. Shockingly, it worked.

    I told her immediately and tried to avoid communicating after that. I think we talked on the phone again? I don’t remember. I apologized several more times — not “I’m sorry but”, it was just “I’m sorry”, with a “I hope you can understand the situation I was in” afterwards.

    Our “fight” has not yet been resolved and there next time I see her, or kids will be there and maybe also one of my parents, so we won’t be able to talk about it. Not that there’s anything to talk about. Either I will grovel and agree that I did everything awful and she was perfect, or we deal with a cloud over our heads for a few days until she/we eventually move on, and it just gets added to the vague cloud of indecipherable reasons why she should’ve married someone else.

    Sorry to dump on the thread, I needed to vent and I don’t really have anywhere safe to do it.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago

    For me the noise and over stimulation is a big part of it, but there’s also a much more complex web of expectations that I don’t understand, and my “over confidence” (read: my failure to have adequately absorbed the cultural suppression of self esteem) tends to put me into a social position that someone with me lack of skills should not have.

    When I do a conference presentation (like I’m preparing for later this week), I can prepare a very scripted set of remarks, and that tends to go well, but off the cuff, I feel like a plate of spaghetti.

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    In CSS, let's talk about srcset or image-set. In that context, you can define which image the browser loads using 1x, 2x, 3x, etc. These refer to pixel density. (In the case of srcset, you can use pixel dimensions too, which sidesteps the issue I'm going to talk about, but it still occurs in image-set, and also is still weird to me in srcset, even if you can side step it.)

    So, assuming, say, a 20" monitor with 1080p resolution is 1x, then a 10" screen with 1080p would be, technically, 2x - though, in the real world, it's more like a 6" screen has a 1000x2500 resolution - so, I don't care about math, that's somewhere between 2x and 3x.

    Let's imagine a set of images presented like this:

    srcset(image_1000x666.webp 1x,
    image_1500x1000.webp 2x,
    image_3000x2000.webp 3x)
    

    then an iphone 14 max (a 6"-ish screen with a 1000x2500-ish resolution, for a 2-3x pixel density), would load the 3000x2000 image, but my 27", 1440p monitor would load the 1000x666px image.

    It seems intuitively backwards - but I've confirmed it - according to MDN, 1x = smaller image, 3x = larger image.

    But as I understand it, an iphone 14 acts as if its a 300x800 screen - using the concept of "points" instead of pixels - which, in the context of "1x" image size makes a lot of sense - but the browser isn't reading that, all it seems to care about is how many pixels are in an inch.

    I made a little page to demonstrate the issue, tho I acknowledge it's not hugely helpful, since, other than using your actual eyeballs, it's hard to tell which image is loaded in the scrset example, but take a look if you want.

    https://germyparker.github.io/image-srcset-example/

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