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Do women actually enjoy sex? edit: Am a woman, and just curious. in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
Do women actually enjoy sex? edit: Am a woman, and just curious. in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] [S] 6 points 16 hours ago* (14 children)

I have, hence the examination mention. There's something that still confuses me, though. If sex is supposed to be pleasurable, why is it when you're being examined down there by a doctor, they'll tell you to take deep breaths, as if to say "brace for impact/expect pain"?

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    [–] [S] 5 points 16 hours ago* (5 children)

    Thanks. How do you push yourself past the phase where the pain makes your eyes blur and water? I get to about just over an inch up and that's when I'll be yelling to stop, because it hurts too much. And that was with loads of lubrication. I feel like I'm making a big deal out of this when other women seem to just put up with it. Is there anything I can do to increase my pain tolerance down there?

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    I tried making a Reddit account and it asked me to build karma before I could ask on any of the relevant subs so I'm posting here.

    I can personally say that if anything goes up there, it hurts, and not in a good way. It does not feel pleasurable at all. It feels kind of like placing a finger on an open sore and pushing down.

    Also, if you're being examined, they tell you to take deep breaths, as if they know that anything going up is going to be painful. If sex is supposed to be pleasurable and enjoyable, why would doctors tell you to brace for impact, so to speak?

    Lastly, women often scream during sex. It's often said they're screaming out of pleasure and not pain. But there are a lot of things I find extremely pleasurable, but I don't scream while I do them.

    Is it just one of those things that is painful but we're conditioned into believing the pain is actually pleasure and I must have inconsistent pain tolerance and I am making a big deal out of this?