Does it actually matter whether you flirt with someone or not in order for them to (potentially) develop feelings for you? A lot of people have told me it's intrinsic, as in "If they like you, they like you." So you should just treat the person you're interested in like you would any other person.

So if it all comes down to connection and looks, doesn't that make flirting a bit redundant?

Edit: To clarify, I see flirting as banter to make sexual/romantic intentions known.

There is this girl I like, she knows I would like to go on a date with her someday. She isn't sure what she wants at the moment. That's all fine but I genuinely begin to develop feelings for her. And I just don't really care all that much for a friendship anymore. It screws with my psyche, it's like only being allowed to smell a fine wine instead of drinking it. (bad analogy, but fuck it)

I've had enough. I just want to tell her I don't like seeing her on just a friendship level any more. And if she doesn't see me as a romantic partner, which is totally A-okay fine with me, but it will mean I'm walking away from this friendship all together. At the same time I don't want to force her to make a decision (she sometimes has trouble saying no). And here's the real son of a gun, she is highly suicidal and takes endings of friendship badly (as she herself has said).

So does anyone have any advice to spare here? Yes, I'm a terrible person so think of it for her sake. Because the friendship is going to end, one way or the other.

My go to is the "See yourself as the price."-approach. When you jokingly set her up that she is hitting on you. For example:

Her: So, you want anything to drink?

Me: Oh I see, already trying to get me drunk, eh?

This will probably be my last question here (at least for a while). My last two questions were about flirting and expressing romantic interest to someone. In short in was a mixture of: 'Flirting is important.' and 'Just be yourself.'

I want to give flirting a proper, respectable shot. I want to see if this is something I can develop and get creative with.

At the same time I'm also hearing I should just be myself and let it be natural. Well, I never flirt, ever. So if I do, it will not be natural nor count as being myself.

So, what should I do? What does it mean to be yourself, while trying to change?

This is kind of a follow up question to this post: How important is flirting within the dating scene?

I have never in my life flirted with anyone. Seeing how I'm still single I figure I might want to change strategies. So what is the best way to show someone you're romantically (or sexually) interested in them?

And if you can, please include examples.

Note: I am a guy, straight.

So straight out the gate: I don't ever really flirt (yes, even if I like the girl). And I'm not sure whether I should change strategies. So hence my question.

Note: I am a guy.

Edit: Thank you all for your input. I have come to the realisation I need to let the other party (better) know I am romantically interested in them. Either by means of flirtation or otherwise.

There is this girl I like, in my dancing class. I want to know if we connect on other levels. I don't want to straight up ask her what her hobbies are. I want to make it feel natural. Believe me, this makes sense within the context.

We usually talk a little bit before the class starts. So that's really the best opportunity to ask.