I would answer debian, but I want her to say arch.

I want my girlfriend to be smarter than me ok!?

Our identities and labels are something for ourselves to decide. There are no rules that forces any labels on you. You can be homosexual if you feel that fits you. Other might be bisexual or pansexual. Or you can still consider yourself heterosexual.

Your sexuality is not determined by the identity of others. Your partner changing their identity or sexuality does not change your sexuality. Remember, it is just a label. A label is meant to be descriptive of you and allow easier communication of how you see yourself.

Pick a label that you think makes sense for you. Don't let others decide it for you based on their identity.

I should mention that likewise your sexuality does not determine your partner's identity. You can be heterosexual and be attracted to him. The label does not change reality. It is just a general descriptor.

Its just a fucking label, it doesn't strictly have to 'make sense' in every context. Just describe you in general.

I just hope it does not end up like video games, where they can sell an unfinished product and patch it later.

Too late. This is already the case, I don't know of a single EV that wasn't buggy on release and still buggy a year or two afterwards as the manufacturer hunts bugs in a leisurely pace. It already is like in the gaming industry. Don't buy an EV that isn't at least one year old on the market or you will become their free of charge beta tester...

As you say, the active man and passive woman trope is so tired and repulsive at this point. I used to really enjoy James Bond movies, but I can barely watch the older ones. The women are literally only there as a love interest for him, they have no other purpose. They don't add anything to the story, other than to get across the message that he is a cool womanizer to be admired.

Hehehe I am tempted to just have you say the ending scene, but I think I want to watch it properly!

Anyway, I think that kind of growth is what makes a good book, movie, series etc. Having a invincible lead that succeeded at everything is cool for a moment, but real memorable characters are those that had serious relatable flaws that they learn to overcome and grow. The character growth should drive the plot, the choice's of the character in relation to that growth is what matters.

Oh yeah, you cannot protect someone without controlling them. Just think about children. You restrict their freedom "for their own best" and some men sees things the same way with women... Their desire to protect is to make sure that you behave in a way they approve of and that nothing happens to you (good or bad) that they don't like (and it always happen to benefit them, strangely). This is true for everything really. Politics etc.

You i think that mutual care is key in a healthy relationship. As you say a lot is a matter of trust!

No worries, its literally only off by one letter! 😅

I think it is the same with the vampire trope. I think you can tell a lot about a person from what tropes and characters they like. It reflects our own desires in life and partner.

For women safety with a man is a lot more important than for men with women and this is something men constantly miss and misunderstand. A man can be both a shield and a sword and sometimes it is directed at you instead of others... At least that's become my understanding...

Interestingly enough being the 'protector' is a very common trope amongst men's media and plays into the above. Yet it rarely deals with the other side. Instead it is about being chosen to be the 'protector' by the woman and protect her from other men.

The woman for this reason is often rather more passive, since she will choose him after he has proven his worth by defeating the bad man trying to hurt her. Her choice is determined by his actions, not by her preference or actions. The female love interest in men's media therefore often don't have much agency, she isn't striving for anything, she is just there to be convinced.

In women's media on the other hand, women often have more agency and are more active in the choice, often deliberating between multiple men and her actions and drive determines the outcome. Meanwhile the men, while not passive, are single mindedly interested in her and driven by gaining her favour (it would of course be a poor romance if he wasn't interested in her, but men have other goals in life than chasing women!).

Really quite interesting and telling about our society and culture if you ask me.

It is also kinda boring and repetitive... I love media that challenges norms and stereotypes.

What is this Machej from 1670? I can't find it when I search for it! Is there a typo? Can you give me some more context or a link? I am really curious now!

Edit: I found it! Apparently search engines didn't like just "Machej 1670". They thought I was looking for a dead relative... Not helpful! Had to add " tv series" to the search.

Edit the Second: Did you mean Maciej rather than Machej? I don't find any Machej :/ I did find Aniela though. Gonna watch it later!

I really enjoy learning and understanding what it is that women like, how they see the world and men. Reading and analysing media directed at women is sooo educative to learn about women's preferences and inner workings. It is so different from men because it reflects the historical and societal perspective of women, like what they have experienced in their own lives, but also historically.

Like a werewolf can actually represent the simultaneous danger of men (violence) and the safety they can provide because of the violence they are capable of. What is one day protection, can become a danger the next day.

Fascinating! Yet men never think about this! Even though we are the one's (in a general sense) putting women through these experiences.

I feel like I might be oversharing and I apologize for that, but I am in the zone and I don't want to stop!

Thanks, I wasn't expecting a compliment on this casual Thursday!

Wait I think I understand what you mean now, I missed your point earlier, sorry about that.

I don't think such distinctions are possible though... Also there is definitely porn that is more soft and gentle, 'humble' if you wish, usually it is directed at women.

Sex and sexual desire is an everyday thing though. It is already everywhere in everyday media, like in series and movies. I am afraid I don't really see your point. Are attractive women not allowed to exist in the media because men feel sexual desire for them? Like why is that a problem? I feel like I am missing something here.

Not even if the topic uniting them is the industry providing strong market segments in both cases?

Wait is playing computer/video games mainstream now?! When did that happen!

What do you mean not all women read smut?! 😱

You can't just go around ruining men's understanding of the world like its a casual Tuesday!

Also, I have seen plenty of women write about how they fantasize about short men and let me tell you, as a tall person I find that expectation to be very difficult to live up to! Walking around on my knees all day really hurts!

I don't know about that, read some women's romance and you'll see that women eat that shit right up. The male lead is always hot, often rich and more recently also "special" in one way or another (werewolf etc).

Those are pretty unrealistic expectations too, they just aren't as sexualizing.

The problem isn't sexualizing, the problem is unrealistic expectations and standards and that is rampant in women's media too. And why shouldn't it be? Women are humans too with dreams and desires for more than the average.