As she walked the aisles, MR said in an interview, she sensed a man standing close behind her. She turned to confront him and noticed that he was a good six inches taller than her. He was talking in graphic detail about sexual things he wanted to do to her. “You’re so disgusting, get away from me,” she told him, and hurried off to find her friend.

Still, he stayed close, and for a few tense minutes the two of them locked eyes while she waited in line to pay. When at last he left, she thought that was the end of it – until, back outside in the chill of the winter morning, she felt something cold against the back of her leggings.

The man had ejaculated on her.

“I didn’t know how to react. I wanted to kill this man,” said MR, who was 47 at the time, recalling the horror and helplessness she felt as her friend wiped her off with towels. (The Guardian has verified MR’s identity but is not publishing her full name to protect her privacy.)

Hours later, on the advice of a sister who worked in law enforcement, she fished her soiled leggings out of the garbage and took them back to the store to report what had happened. A clerk listened to her account and, not seeming to realize that MR understood Spanish, shouted to a colleague in a backroom: “Tenemos otra.”

“We’ve got another one.”

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[–] 46 points 6 days ago

You know what else would be funny? Convictions. Fuck these losers

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  • [–] 54 points 6 days ago (7 children)

    Fucking gross. What the fuck is wrong with men these days? And I'm saying this as a man. Fucking hell.

    They're really becoming a race of fucking baboons. Between the looksmaxxing incels, the christo-fascists, misogynists, and these sexual predators, there's just no end to the shit men are doing these days. You can't rely on them to save our society from the predators that rule it, because they're on the same fucking team.

    I swear, if I have faith in anyone to save our society it's going to be women and queer folk. Because the men have lost it.

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  • [–] 16 points 6 days ago (1 child)

    As bad as it is today, I'm assuming it's still better than most of history. It's not a woman's duty to service her husband anymore, he can still get charged with rape even when married.

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    [–] 25 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (21 children)

    Shame on The Guardian for using a term for a kink when the article itself even mentions a term for the specific form of sexual assault. Why call this anything ralted to gooning when it's tagging/sharking/cum-sharking?

    This may seem minor to folks, but it's actually extremely concerning. I'll be very clear though, this behavior was disgusting. I'm not saying people engaging in sexual assault aren't pieces of shit or that they're just engaging in a harmless kink. The problem is that the article also uses a term for a kink/people engaging in a kink and labels it onto people engaging in sexual assault.

    It even came with its own specialized vocabulary. Masturbating in public and surreptitiously ejaculating on random women was known as “tagging” or “sharking” – or even “cum-sharking”. Online forums praised perpetrators for being “low inhibition” or “low inhib”, and users contributing to the discussion said they wished they could summon the same fearlessness in themselves.

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    Almost immediately, the lawyers stumbled on another weird dimension to the cases they were developing: an online subculture of lonely, disaffected men, known as “gooners”, who bond with one other over their shared fascination with obsessive masturbation and compete with each other to see who can keep going for hours or even days at a time.

    While most appear to pursue their self-pleasure in private “goon caves” and are not criminals, some gooners, the lawyers found, took pride in public acts of masturbation. In fact, some were committing sharking assaults at Dollar Tree stores and posting the footage online.

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    Another gooner, who was caught filming himself while masturbating at a Dollar Tree in Fern Park, Florida, told police that he did this regularly “in different locations” and uploaded the videos to an OnlyFans page, according to his arrest report.

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    Long before it developed an association with criminal acts, “gooning” was understood as a pornography-fueled compulsion, sometimes involving multiple screens at once, that can become a substitute for intimate relationships with others. It also tends to come with a heavy dose of self-loathing. Experts say that online forums and video content aimed at gooners often send the message that obsessive masturbation – whether alone or in public – is as much as men like them can aspire to in life. Webster described it as a “disavowed manic state of triumph over something hideous”.

    One common trope of the pornography that these gooners consume has men ejaculating over women’s bodies, faces and hair – acts that, Lankford said, have no basis in evolutionary biology and are difficult to interpret as anything other than demeaning to the women.


    As a small aside, I think the last paragraph really shows out weirdly out of touch some of this article is. Does something sexual have to be based on "evolutionary psychology" for it to be considered acceptable? As long as consensual for all parties involved, why does it matter? Just because something makes you personally uncomfortable doesn't mean it's something that's inherently wrong. Kinks can be explored in a consensusal, safe, and healthy way. Conversely, would that suddenly mean other niche kinks that are based in more biological topics are considered acceptable? Does knotting get a pass but facials don't?? Like, this paragraph is just so weird. Anyways, back to the main point.

    This is really concerning to me. It's the Overton window shifting to demonize porn instead of the actual issue at hand: sexual assault.

    For folks who might not understand why I think this is concerning, consider this hypothetical alternative scenario.

    Alcoholic sexually assaults woman

    A local woman was attacked in public. During the assault, the assailant's words were slurred and his breath smelled of hard liquor. He was detained and found to be a part of a community that attacks women and posts videos of it online. They call themselves rapists.

    Almost immediately, the lawyers stumbled on another weird dimension to the cases they were developing: a disturbing trend amongst people to engage in drinking alcohol. These alcoholics bond with others over their shared interest in alcohol.

    While most alcoholics are content to self indulge at home or in bars, many also drink at parties, or large get togethers of many people. At these parties many people drink alcohol. A concerning trend amongst party goers is to have sex. Many of these alcoholics rape women at these parties.

    We consulted a biologist and they informed us that alcohol is actually poisonous to the body and there is no reason one should ever consume it.

    In case it's not clear, instead of calling the person a rapist they're called an alcoholic, ignores that the person is in a group called "rapists", and then tries to make a connection between alcohol and rape.

    What if the article was about finding a kidnapping victim who was tied up and the article attributed it to shibari? It's just so weird to me. I find it disgusting. I hope that others here aren't so puritanical that they can see the problem I'm illustrating.

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    [–] 16 points 6 days ago

    Those responsible for the act here are horrible, broken people, but don't forget the company that created the conditions for this to happen and an environment where their employees can be so casual about sexual assault - most likely being perpetrated predominately on low/no income individuals and people of color per Dollar Tree's typical customer base.

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  • [–] 12 points 6 days ago

    Sometimes I feel like we'd have a better world if we gave women free guns.

    Not a kinder world, probably, but a better one.

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  • [–] 12 points 6 days ago

    I don't want to live on this planet anymore.

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  • [–] 10 points 6 days ago

    My objection to capital punishment leaving my body

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  • [–] 15 points 6 days ago (25 children)

    How... How do you even do that????? Dumbfounded.

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    [–] 15 points 6 days ago (1 child)

    The future is fuckin weird.

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    [–] 12 points 6 days ago (2 children)

    My partner showed me an article some time ago about something that needs to make a comeback: hatpinning

    I see too many stories about men who could use a good hat pinning

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    [–] 6 points 6 days ago

    What in the hell goes through the head of a dude like that?

    Why? How? I don't get it. What the fuck did we do as a society to create such people???

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  • [–] 10 points 6 days ago*

    i remember seeing that video of a gross pervert that jerked off on woman shoppers, never knew it was a DT store on r/publicfreakout a while back. the dude was chicken just ran off after coming on them.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 days ago

    What the actual fuck?
    And to the wastes of space downplaying this or making fun of it, good work of proving everybody right that says men simply suck.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

    Holy shit! I hope they start getting shot when they do this.

    My wife is a victim of sexual assault and while I'm generally anti carceral I do think that these sexual assaults need to be treated as misogynistic hate crimes, and that crimes (against others) done for clout need to receive extra penalties.

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