While this is probably true, the unspoken assumption is that you have some kind of safety net that allows you to take that risk.
I would argue that: People who have the luxury to quit when things don't work out tend to win at life, not because they quit, but because they had the luxury in the first place.
Is it stupid? Absolutely. I didn't have white hairs before I did that, stress was insane.
Did it work out? After almost a year, yes.
Was it worth it? Also yes
It's not necessarily having the means to do so immediately, but having the ability to make it work ANYWAY, and having the mental fortitude and strength of will to live through what can only be described as a living hell of stress
I'm aware there are many people that will never work for, but more probably can than they think
It's definitely important to know when to quit, but it's also important to know when to fight. For example, I'm in the tech industry working for a AAA videogame company. I could leave, but I'm in a luxurious position where I don't get harassed or put in dangerous situations. I also know that the rest of the tech industry is full of the same bullshit. So, I'm choosing to instead fight back and change the status quo.
There are a lot of issues. I'm not personally experiencing harassment, but several coworkers have. We're way underpaid in the industry, we're especially fighting against RTO, and communication from management is awful. Retaliation is common. The company has been engaging in illegal union busting. We have a lot to fight against.
Oh... some of those issues you outlined (like retaliation and harassment) are illegal. If someone can prove that it's happening then they can sue, and win. I hope things get better for you and your coworkers. Nobody should have to face harassment at work.
Can you refer me for a job. I am a dev manager with a decade of experience. And I'm a Marxist. I lead the change from within. Looking because RTO only benefits shiity managers.
To be fair, I have noticed this with people that I know that became successful. They were always super quick to turn the tables over in a neg situation. It takes a toll though.
I have walked out of damn near every job I've had so far, always when they think that attempting to screw me is a good idea
"Oh, you're one of our best drivers, flawless record, history of cleaning up other drivers messes, and we even specifically called you to hire you back after you left because we knew we could trust you? We're gonna file this blown oil filter as an accident that was your fault, no raise for you this year"
Got into a literal shouting match with my ex boss after that one, holy fuuuuuck
Did I say they were being assholes in general, or that they did asshole things in specific?
Some examples:
AC breaking in the middle of summer, causing the store to be over 100F and refusing to even call the repairman for 2 days. Left on the spot when offered an interview at a different place when the manager saw our conditions.
Being told I was to get a promotion only to have it taken away a week later AFTER my replacement for my current role has been hired due to petty office drama bullshit (some other manager didn't like me and whined to the CEO, his brother). Was offered a worse replacement temp job as a pity, walked instead.
I've told this one on Lemmy before I think, might have been a diff acct tho: boss with anger management issues earlier this year got red in the face and yelled at me for not emptying a trash can that did not exist. When pressed on the issue he just got madder and in my face. CO workers confirmed via text that no trash can in the area described had any trash at all in it. I just got in my car and left
You'll notice the running theme here is that something us done to me that is unreasonable. Most places I've worked love me right up until I don't take being fucked over. Then suddenly they "don't know why I'm angry" and am "making a stupid decision" (said by a job I'd replaced literally later that afternoon lol)
Only bet I ever won was the only one I ever really took, because I knew I couldn't lose. I was discussing Colombia with someone (we'd both been there) and they forgot Colombia has both an Atlantic and a Pacific coastline. We bet on it, and since I know world geography on the continental scale nearly by heart, I won the bet.
I wouldn't have even taken that bet if I had a 75% chance of winning, because I bet $100 but was broke. Never bet on even the slightest uncertainty if you can't afford to pay, it's not worth it. Fortunately, I'd been to both over both coasts of Colombia on planes, seen Colombia on all sorts of maps and globes, and reality is consistent enough that coastlines on a map don't change until the real world changes first plus a delay to update the maps, and internet failure would just mean the bet was off. I had basically no chance of failure and the guy would have been pretty patient in the 0.0000000~0001% chance a freak accident occurred.
Obviously nothing is guaranteed, but if your chance of winning is lower than your chance of dying or having your life permanently ruined if you lose, you're better off walking away. And that's why I never liked the Golden Saucer type games in Pokémon and Neopets, one spin really is just one spin for me, win or lose, because if I don't win the first time on a luck based "game" then I see it for what it is.... an obvious con.
If you’re doing it only once, pick whatever option feels right. If you’re in these situations all the time, you really got to read about expected value. Statistics and probabilities can be very counterintuitive.
[+]PatFussy@lemm.ee-15 points2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)
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We are breeding an entire generation of failures. People who cant take any negative criticism and cant accept that sometimes they need to try harder. This 'just quit' mentality is toxic and degenerative.
Edit: To answer the guy who commented but erased their post. I wasnt talking specifically about the workplace. I was more broadly talking about picking something up and not sticking to it because reasons 1, 2, and 3.
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