That makes sense. However, there are still things you can probably do depending on how financially independent you are. Even working towards independence in housing and health insurance would be a big move. If you live away from your parents, you can wear and act how you like when not at their house. If you have your own insurance, you can get HRT without them knowing. You can prepare for and start your transition in lead-up to your sibling becoming an adult.
Transitioning is a lot of work, but it's very satisfying and motivating. I wouldn't start HRT till your sibling's last semester, as it will probably become harder to hide over time. Planned Parenthood is very affordable, so long as you have insurance for once you get the medication. You should also look to live in a heavily democratic state, as there'll be more support in those places, even if care becomes illegal.