▲ 1020 ▼ Sorry to be a bother... (lemmy.world) submitted 2 years ago by The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world to c/memes@sopuli.xyz 122 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] exanime@lemmy.world 67 points 2 years ago (2 children) You'd just be drawing more attention to yourself... Or inviting a challenge permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Caesium@lemmy.world 15 points 2 years ago (2 children) I'd rather take that then yet another soulless 'how are you today' permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] xor@infosec.pub 14 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] weker01@sh.itjust.works 27 points 2 years ago (2 children) Do it the German way and just trauma dump. I mean if they didn't care they shouldn't have asked. In Germany "how are you" is also smalltalk but you are not expected to lie. Just keep it short. "Wie geht's?" "Nicht so gut gerade und bei dir?" permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] SolarMonkey@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 years ago People do that to me all the time. I just seem to radiate safety and people dump everything. I get that they need it, and sometimes (when I’m in a good headspace) I’m happy to provide an outlet for people who need one, but it gets really exhausting. I don’t even like small talk, I only bother with pleasantries because I’m supposed to, apparently. (That trauma dumping is totally not the norm around here..) permalink fedilink source parent [+] xor@infosec.pub 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] exanime@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago (1 child) You don't think people would go "aww how come you are down? Let me cheer you up"? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) It's worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. My understanding is the misery, for lack of a better word, is more comforting to many as it reminds them of when they were young (or they emulate what they saw around them as children) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] exanime@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. I get that 100% and, although I am sure I made the mistake before, I am trying hard to understand and respect these boundaries I am just saying I believe wearing such a pin to avoid people would have a noticeable cobra effect permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago Ahh I get u now. Yeah, that's totally true permalink fedilink source parent [–] Evotech@lemmy.world 10 points 2 years ago "let me fix that for you" drags it to positive permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Caesium@lemmy.world 15 points 2 years ago (2 children) I'd rather take that then yet another soulless 'how are you today' permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] xor@infosec.pub 14 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] weker01@sh.itjust.works 27 points 2 years ago (2 children) Do it the German way and just trauma dump. I mean if they didn't care they shouldn't have asked. In Germany "how are you" is also smalltalk but you are not expected to lie. Just keep it short. "Wie geht's?" "Nicht so gut gerade und bei dir?" permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] SolarMonkey@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 years ago People do that to me all the time. I just seem to radiate safety and people dump everything. I get that they need it, and sometimes (when I’m in a good headspace) I’m happy to provide an outlet for people who need one, but it gets really exhausting. I don’t even like small talk, I only bother with pleasantries because I’m supposed to, apparently. (That trauma dumping is totally not the norm around here..) permalink fedilink source parent [+] xor@infosec.pub 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] exanime@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago (1 child) You don't think people would go "aww how come you are down? Let me cheer you up"? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) It's worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. My understanding is the misery, for lack of a better word, is more comforting to many as it reminds them of when they were young (or they emulate what they saw around them as children) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] exanime@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. I get that 100% and, although I am sure I made the mistake before, I am trying hard to understand and respect these boundaries I am just saying I believe wearing such a pin to avoid people would have a noticeable cobra effect permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago Ahh I get u now. Yeah, that's totally true permalink fedilink source parent
[+] xor@infosec.pub 14 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] weker01@sh.itjust.works 27 points 2 years ago (2 children) Do it the German way and just trauma dump. I mean if they didn't care they shouldn't have asked. In Germany "how are you" is also smalltalk but you are not expected to lie. Just keep it short. "Wie geht's?" "Nicht so gut gerade und bei dir?" permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] SolarMonkey@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 years ago People do that to me all the time. I just seem to radiate safety and people dump everything. I get that they need it, and sometimes (when I’m in a good headspace) I’m happy to provide an outlet for people who need one, but it gets really exhausting. I don’t even like small talk, I only bother with pleasantries because I’m supposed to, apparently. (That trauma dumping is totally not the norm around here..) permalink fedilink source parent [+] xor@infosec.pub 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] weker01@sh.itjust.works 27 points 2 years ago (2 children) Do it the German way and just trauma dump. I mean if they didn't care they shouldn't have asked. In Germany "how are you" is also smalltalk but you are not expected to lie. Just keep it short. "Wie geht's?" "Nicht so gut gerade und bei dir?" permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] SolarMonkey@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 years ago People do that to me all the time. I just seem to radiate safety and people dump everything. I get that they need it, and sometimes (when I’m in a good headspace) I’m happy to provide an outlet for people who need one, but it gets really exhausting. I don’t even like small talk, I only bother with pleasantries because I’m supposed to, apparently. (That trauma dumping is totally not the norm around here..) permalink fedilink source parent [+] xor@infosec.pub 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] SolarMonkey@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 years ago People do that to me all the time. I just seem to radiate safety and people dump everything. I get that they need it, and sometimes (when I’m in a good headspace) I’m happy to provide an outlet for people who need one, but it gets really exhausting. I don’t even like small talk, I only bother with pleasantries because I’m supposed to, apparently. (That trauma dumping is totally not the norm around here..) permalink fedilink source parent
[+] xor@infosec.pub 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] exanime@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago (1 child) You don't think people would go "aww how come you are down? Let me cheer you up"? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) It's worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. My understanding is the misery, for lack of a better word, is more comforting to many as it reminds them of when they were young (or they emulate what they saw around them as children) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] exanime@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. I get that 100% and, although I am sure I made the mistake before, I am trying hard to understand and respect these boundaries I am just saying I believe wearing such a pin to avoid people would have a noticeable cobra effect permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago Ahh I get u now. Yeah, that's totally true permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) It's worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. My understanding is the misery, for lack of a better word, is more comforting to many as it reminds them of when they were young (or they emulate what they saw around them as children) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] exanime@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. I get that 100% and, although I am sure I made the mistake before, I am trying hard to understand and respect these boundaries I am just saying I believe wearing such a pin to avoid people would have a noticeable cobra effect permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago Ahh I get u now. Yeah, that's totally true permalink fedilink source parent
[–] exanime@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. I get that 100% and, although I am sure I made the mistake before, I am trying hard to understand and respect these boundaries I am just saying I believe wearing such a pin to avoid people would have a noticeable cobra effect permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago Ahh I get u now. Yeah, that's totally true permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago Ahh I get u now. Yeah, that's totally true permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Evotech@lemmy.world 10 points 2 years ago "let me fix that for you" drags it to positive permalink fedilink source parent
