Pronouns are independent of using someone's deadname.

I do admit I probably should have checked to see what Cara's pronouns are (apologies if they are not she/her). But my general rule of thumb is that if we are talking about someone transitioning and people being weird about it: Assume they use whatever pronouns they present as until told otherwise. Because in that context, using gender neutral-ish pronouns (because "they/them" very much highlights the limits of the English language) implies they are something in between.