The "community in general"?

Where was the election held? What was the quorum for an official decision?

Seriously, you're claiming authority here, so what is that authority?

Edit:

and pulling the "but my wheelchair using friend never corrected me" doesn't help your cause either.

That's not what I said. I said people, plural, in a disability group. One that has more than one chair bound member. I also indirectly covered a long history of interaction with disabled people, including chair bound individuals.

You are literally the first person to have brought this up. It has never come up in group meetings, inservices on the job, via online support groups, or from any other sources at all.

From my end of things, you're making a specious claim to a community, with only a single article as your call to authority.

So, don't get this twisted here. You jumped into a casual conversation over a single term and then went all dickish because I didn't immediately comply with your wishes. As far as I'm concerned, even if/when you do back up your call to authority, you're still an asshole. So, you know, put up or shut up. I'll wait until you provide that proof of authority before blocking you, since if there actually is a big enough movement within the disabled community to change a term, I'm fine with that. I just don't accept your claim without more than what you brought to the table.