I understand your frustration, yet I don't think one is better than the other. I'd use KDE if it wasn't for paperwm
Doesn't GNOME work towards the android style where you have the notification that apps/processes are running in background? It's not yet perfect but they work on it.
I haven't used tray icons extensively on windows. I installed them on GNOME when I moved to gnome but they got lost somewhere along my distro hopping path.