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[–] Chickenstalker@lemmy.world 19 points 3 years ago (2 children) If both parties are 18 and above, it is none of our business. Many men are into cougars and many women like sugar daddies. Whatever floats their boat. permalink fedilink source hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Noughmad@programming.dev 15 points 3 years ago (2 children) Legally, yes. You can't and shouldn't prevent them from dating. But, it's still creepy, it's usually still predatory, and there can be a huge power imbalance. Basically, the main thing is whether either person can easily leave at any time - often the younger one can't. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] LonelyWendigo@lemmy.world 9 points 3 years ago I don't know man. If at 50 I ran into a 20 something that was into dating me, I'd feel more like prey than a predator. But, who am I kidding? If the roles were reversed and I was a 20 something encountering a 50+ cougar, I'd still feel like prey. It's definitely all about power dynamics, but I don't think making assumptions about adult people's situations based on age alone is appropriate or helpful. permalink fedilink source parent [–] corm@sopuli.xyz 8 points 3 years ago How is that any different than 18 year olds getting an apartment together and being too broke to easily move out if needed? And there are plenty of older people in the same boat financially. In fact most people live paycheck to paycheck. I guess what you really mean is that poor people should only date other poor people, to make it a fair power balance. /s permalink fedilink source parent [–] ryathal@sh.itjust.works -2 points 3 years ago Legally yes. Socially dating someone in the same life stage as you is the line. The half your age plus 7 rule roughly aligns to that. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Noughmad@programming.dev 15 points 3 years ago (2 children) Legally, yes. You can't and shouldn't prevent them from dating. But, it's still creepy, it's usually still predatory, and there can be a huge power imbalance. Basically, the main thing is whether either person can easily leave at any time - often the younger one can't. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] LonelyWendigo@lemmy.world 9 points 3 years ago I don't know man. If at 50 I ran into a 20 something that was into dating me, I'd feel more like prey than a predator. But, who am I kidding? If the roles were reversed and I was a 20 something encountering a 50+ cougar, I'd still feel like prey. It's definitely all about power dynamics, but I don't think making assumptions about adult people's situations based on age alone is appropriate or helpful. permalink fedilink source parent [–] corm@sopuli.xyz 8 points 3 years ago How is that any different than 18 year olds getting an apartment together and being too broke to easily move out if needed? And there are plenty of older people in the same boat financially. In fact most people live paycheck to paycheck. I guess what you really mean is that poor people should only date other poor people, to make it a fair power balance. /s permalink fedilink source parent
[–] LonelyWendigo@lemmy.world 9 points 3 years ago I don't know man. If at 50 I ran into a 20 something that was into dating me, I'd feel more like prey than a predator. But, who am I kidding? If the roles were reversed and I was a 20 something encountering a 50+ cougar, I'd still feel like prey. It's definitely all about power dynamics, but I don't think making assumptions about adult people's situations based on age alone is appropriate or helpful. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] corm@sopuli.xyz 8 points 3 years ago How is that any different than 18 year olds getting an apartment together and being too broke to easily move out if needed? And there are plenty of older people in the same boat financially. In fact most people live paycheck to paycheck. I guess what you really mean is that poor people should only date other poor people, to make it a fair power balance. /s permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ryathal@sh.itjust.works -2 points 3 years ago Legally yes. Socially dating someone in the same life stage as you is the line. The half your age plus 7 rule roughly aligns to that. permalink fedilink source parent
