If I'm always going to where my friends are, and they never come to where I am, are they really my friends?
These are the questions I constantly mull over to try to figure out. It's extremely important to me that me and my friends are on equal footing, we're both partners in the friendship, neither is following the other's lead. I've lost many friends by simply not being the first person to send a message.
To me, I'd rather have fewer friends who have me as an active part of their life, versus a lot of friends I'm constantly making concessions for that wouldn't do the same for me.
With all that said, I'm not you and I have no control over your choices. Do what you will.