But it's not a wash. That's like saying a shark attack or an undercurrent could kill you at a beach, so it's a wash. One is incredibly more likely than the other.
There are at least two capable airline pilots on every flight, plus air traffic control in case anything goes wrong. There's very little traffic in the skies, and that traffic is highly regulated and coordinated, so a collision is incredible unlikely. There are tons of cars on the roads, many of which have distracted, sleepy, or intoxicated drivers, and it takes just one to ruin your day or even your life.
You may feel your risk is lower when driving because you're "in control," but the statistics don't lie, you're incredibly more likely to die in a car than a plane.