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What did "that one" person do to you which made you cut them out of your life? (lemm.ee)
submitted 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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Or, alternatively, what did you do to another person which got you blacklisted from their life?

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[–] 0 points 3 years ago (2 children)

I constantly block people on the Internet based on the content they deliver, how they answer, whether they are logical and polite, or leap straight to manipulations, lies and insults.

Some think it's a radical approach, but I don't see it that way. For all its capabilities, the Internet isn't real and neither are the relationships we have with people on numerous sites that form its social aspect. Thus, there's really little logic in giving people second chances, wasting time, attention and effort for them, trying to get through their attitudes and suffering to reach "real" them.

It's like "you have the chance to be polite and reasonable - resign from this chance, and I'm gonna resign from you".

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  • [–] 0 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Some think it’s a radical approach, but I don’t see it that way. For all its capabilities, the Internet isn’t real and neither are the relationships we have with people on numerous sites that form its social aspect. Thus, there’s really little logic in giving people second chances, wasting time, attention and effort for them, trying to get through their attitudes and suffering to reach “real” them.

    You're absolutely correct.

    I think that saying that someone "failed at life" is a bit stupid because, they would do exactly what you recommend in your own comment; they would give friends & family a second chance:

    Regardless of who I cut out though, there is ALWAYS room to come back if they change and grow up.

    I’m still hoping my mom will before she passes… : /

    Maybe you see things differently, but perhaps there is something more interesting and constructive you could say than: "You both failed at life."

    Of course, arguing online is pretty fun... haha! :)

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  • [–] -1 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago)

    Maybe you see things differently, but perhaps there is something more interesting and constructive you could say than: “You both failed at life.”

    I certainly see things differently. I see a person who wastes time in the Internet instead of trying to fix what absolutely should be fixed - it's not that we have all the time in the world to make things right. Look at the part you quoted - "before she passes". The guy realizes that the mother may die, but still, talking crap on the Internet seems to him like the better choice to spend the precious time left on.

    For me, selecting Internet upvotes, virtual handshakes and high fives by random, anonymous nobodes, over family is certainly within the definition of "failed at life", and I'd sooner bite my own tongue off rather than approach such a person with "interesting and constructive" words.

    Of course, arguing online is pretty fun…

    Definitely! 🧐

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  • [–] 0 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    You checked! ❤️

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  • [–] -1 points 3 years ago

    Family, friends are special people in our lives and so they get special treatment. They aren't just any people you can throw away, sever ties with and block. If the relationship between you evolved into ping-pong of requests and demands, it's unhealthy relationship and you need to put the effort and at least try to make it work. It works both way - the same is expected of them.

    You may fail at that, they may fail at that, you all mail fail, unfortunately, but this is in no way the reason to feel good about it, no "victory", no "yay!" achievement.

    To see people announcing in public that they got rid of their closest family because they "didn't respect my pronouns", said in a scornful tone... No. This is wrong. It's a clear indication of a flawed life.

    You may think otherwise, you may disagree - I have no problem with that, feel free to go about your way, while clicking "block user". But don't argue with me that I am wrong about my thinking, because there are no arguments that will change my opinion on this topic.

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