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Who you are is who you are (lemmy.world)
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[–] 17 points 2 years ago (3 children)

I never said that they weren't. I'm just saying I don't believe anybody looks at their online behavior and thinks 'thats not the real me that doesn't count.'

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago

    Several comments here provide evidence to the contrary.

    And maybe that's the problem. The people who are assholes online don't think about there being real, earnest people behind the other keyboards.

    Anonymity and the abstraction of interacting online can and does weaken the sense of social contract for many people, unfortunately.

    And it does count. Because what one says online can and does affect others in a real way.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I duno i have definitely seen people argue the internet isn't real and none of it counts. I think people definitely try to justify it to themself like that. Like if a trans person complains about online harassment, that argument gets used a lot to dismiss it as lesser or not really important.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    I dunno. I agree and I don't. I am part of a gaming community where RPing and ERPing is a decent chunk of subscribers. It does not appeal to me, but does that make them a catboi that will lick the back of their paws for a million gil? I kinda doubt that.

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  • [–] [S] 7 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    There is a big difference between me being "Sir Markham of Viewhampton" online, and playing that role as a total dick, and me being me online and me being a total dick.

    If I play Sir Markham as a dick who goes out, woes women, wines them and dines them then dumps them for the next bit of tail that comes along, that is clearly a part I am role playing because I am roleplaying him as that.

    But if I come on here as me -- as Gabe and am rude, obnoxious, racist and a total twat then it is far more likely that is what I am like in real life.

    If I roleplay a wizard in an online game do you think that means I can do magic in real life?

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago

    Not sure all! However both our scenarios are fairly apparent where fantasy starts and reality ends. But where is that line in other mediums?

    I'm not justifying bigotry or anything else you brought up. I completely agree that they are assholes.

    But is shittymorph just a shitty wrestling guy?

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Unexpected XIV.

    Honestly, if you're online enough you do start to feel like a lot of people aren't authentic, and it's true enough, but I also think that validates the OP in a way. People are living our their fantasies, and they wouldn't be fantasies if they weren't appealing.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Yes! But I'm not a WOL with a mansion. I dunno. I hear the sentiment about being a dick and bigotry. We both know that XIV is not about that life and I am happy it's that way. However I was going down the wormhole of possible exceptions.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago

    but does that make them a catboi that will lick the back of their paws for a million gil?

    Absolutely it does, you just can't do that in real life, because catbois, contrary to popular belief, don't exist, and gillionaire whales willing to fund these ventures also don't exist.

    I think the difference here is that people are more multifaceted than they care to admit, and there is no real "you". You can just as easily get lost in the sauce of catboi erotic roleplay as many can get lost in the sauce of ironically being a callous asshole. If I have learned anything, it is that irony doesn't exist, and there is no core "reality". I mean, there's like a core physical reality, probably, but that's not really what I mean.

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