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Hexbear defederated from us (hexbear.net)
submitted 3 years ago by to c/main@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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[–] 15 points 3 years ago* (2 children)

What chaser things have I defended?? I'm trans I don't see how I could be a chaser and I don't even know what I could do to earn the title. It seems like this post was never brought to our attention, because we check every report we receive and remove the ones that should be removed. What we don't check, however, is every post as we do not have the mod numbers for that. We can only see what you guys bring to our attention through reports.

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  • [–] 8 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (1 child)

    They're referring to the screenshot of a post where you said a user's comment about who they are attracted to was not transphobic and to stop reporting it.

    IIRC, at the time it lead to the thread being removed due to other transphobic comments. When asked Ada clarified that the comment hexbear is complaining about as being a chaser was not the reason for this post:

    https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/1246514

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  • [–] 16 points 3 years ago

    Yeah neither of us viewed the comment as a problem. There was a bunch of stuff surrounding it, and the user did end up getting some stuff removed, and I did end up having to delete the thread, but none of that was due to the original comment

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  • [–] 4 points 3 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

    [I got a bot to automatically delete all my comments over 1 month old so you can’t see this comment anymore]

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  • [–] 25 points 3 years ago* (1 child)

    Oh yeah I remember this whole fiasco. The argument was literally just attraction to body types/features versus attraction to genders. This person was expressing that they're only attracted to archetypaly "female" body features but are open to dating any one of any gender identity. The whole fight is basically just people thinking that they're fetishizing trans men when they're just expressing that well they're fine with dating someone with a masculine identity, they don't think it would work if the person wasn't comfortable in a feminine body. I don't really want to get into this again, but there's nothing wrong with that in it of itself.

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  • [–] 20 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Some folks refuse to believe there are different levels of dysphoria. Like so many things, it's a spectrum.

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  • [–] 19 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Seriously! I'm transfem, have been for years, 2 years on hormones, but I have no problem with my voice. Let it be masculine! Who the fuck cares. It doesn't matter! Lot of trans people feel similar ways about different things

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  • [–] 18 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Due to hormone issues, I was basically presented with a choice to transition if I wanted. It was a serious consideration that I had to make. Took over a year to decide. I wished I was fem (still kinda do) but I couldn't part with my lil buddy. Femboys weren't really a thing back then, so yeah. Not every GQ person needs to want to undergo GRS to "qualify" as trans. Gatekeepy bullshit.

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  • [–] 17 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Hi, that was me (on my kbin account). That's a quote pulled out of context. It was just a response to a direct question about whether I personally was attracted to trans men. It's not a fetishization.

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  • [–] 8 points 3 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

    [I got a bot to automatically delete all my comments over 1 month old so you can’t see this comment anymore]

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  • [–] 17 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    That's why I said it probably wouldn't work. Most trans people would feel uncomfortable in that situation, so of course we wouldn't pursue a relationship.

    I did know someone (casually, did not date) who was a pre-transition trans man who wasn't terribly bothered by letting cis men enjoy his boobs, which is why I brought up that specific scenario. I don't know if he dated cis men, but it wouldn't surprise me. I also assume that if he did, then the relationship would probably stay pretty casual with a planned end date of whenever he started physically transitioning.

    There's also a reason Moss - and most people, including Ada - were frustrated enough with the reports to publicly say "this is not transphobia". Because it's not, and some people are too quick to be triggered.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 years ago

    Because it's not, and some people are too quick to be triggered.

    It helps that there was an entire instance trawling our posts, looking for any controversy to amplify into the short story du jour.

    I’m all for talking about these things and figuring out what norms we want to uphold in our spaces. I’m not in favor of waves hands whatever this has turned out to be.

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