It's helpful to take a few steps back from time to time to reassess where we're each coming from on our knowledge of tech (or anything) to better communicate.
Tech people presume that normal people think about how technology works
They don't even try to conceptualise how something on their phone gets there from the internet or 'the cloud' - when things stop working they don't think about the fact that their an app on their phone is using a network connection to a router, which distributes an internet service that connects them to a server, that is running a program, on which they have an authenticated account...
They wouldn't even know where to begin with troubleshooting, it's just 'broken' and they get frustrated