This is the pseudointellectualism I'm talking about. "You don't actually understand what it ACTUALLY means" while the meanings are clearly obfuscated for the layperson.

Brosef, the term "patriarchy" itself is (and has always been) intentionally misleading and inherently misandrist, and has played a huge role in the modern demonization of men as a result. The "academic definition" of the term is irrelevant, as the (fully intended) real world negative consequences of the term for men in the cultural zeitgeist have been systemic and pervasive, as we can see all over this thread.