Wow, you really wrote a giant paragraph to say that something that works just fine for the vast majority of people, but is slightly sub-optimal, is grounds for dismissing someone as a lost cause.
Yes, tying your shoes correctly does make the knot slight neater, and slightly less prone to coming undone, but it's not that bad. It most likely doesn't impact people as you think.
Spending your whole life trying to optimize every little detail, especially something as minuscule as tying your shoes, can be a very wasted life.