▲ 62 ▼ Opinion | Why Aren’t More People Getting Married? Ask Women What Dating Is Like. (www.nytimes.com) submitted 2 years ago by spaduf@slrpnk.net to c/twoxchromosomes@slrpnk.net 28 comments fedilink hide all child comments cross-posted from: https://kbin.social/m/mensliberation@lemmy.ca/t/623593 Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.
[+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -9 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Ya but it would help a lot if you didn’t blame it on men. It’s a problem for both sexes. There are a lot of shit awful women out there too. You’re not special. You’re not a gift from god. 😊. We’re all dealing with it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children) Ya I get it, the article is just about someone who is complaining that they can’t meet a decent guy. I guess I just don’t understand the point tho, because I can just write an article too complaining about all the shitty women out there, and then write a title that indicates that the whole reason marriages are dwindling is because of women. If you can’t meet a decent guy then chances are you are doing something wrong. That makes you the problem too. Maybe you hang out with the wrong crowd. Maybe you have poor judgement. Could be a lot of reasons, but pinning everything on “men suck” comes off as super disingenuous. I am not taking it personally, but just pointing out the fact that it take two to tango, and if it’s not working out for you then MAYBE you need to spend a little extra time on yourself instead of jumping to the blame game. We all have a lot of trouble with self reflection. I think this person gets a lot of negative reaction from their personality and they blame others for their failures. That’s how I read the article. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -6 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Eye roll. You’re clueless and I feel bad for you. Keep playing that victim card. Now I know why you’re single. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago Thanks bro!! permalink fedilink source parent [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) What about all the women calling men dumb or whatever insult you want to throw in there? Why is it always one sided for you? Do you just prefer playing victim instead? I don’t get it. It’s a problem for both sexes. I’m starting to think YOU are the problem. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men. You won’t accept any responsibility. All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion? Good talk. This is where you get ghosted. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -9 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Ya but it would help a lot if you didn’t blame it on men. It’s a problem for both sexes. There are a lot of shit awful women out there too. You’re not special. You’re not a gift from god. 😊. We’re all dealing with it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children) Ya I get it, the article is just about someone who is complaining that they can’t meet a decent guy. I guess I just don’t understand the point tho, because I can just write an article too complaining about all the shitty women out there, and then write a title that indicates that the whole reason marriages are dwindling is because of women. If you can’t meet a decent guy then chances are you are doing something wrong. That makes you the problem too. Maybe you hang out with the wrong crowd. Maybe you have poor judgement. Could be a lot of reasons, but pinning everything on “men suck” comes off as super disingenuous. I am not taking it personally, but just pointing out the fact that it take two to tango, and if it’s not working out for you then MAYBE you need to spend a little extra time on yourself instead of jumping to the blame game. We all have a lot of trouble with self reflection. I think this person gets a lot of negative reaction from their personality and they blame others for their failures. That’s how I read the article. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -6 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Eye roll. You’re clueless and I feel bad for you. Keep playing that victim card. Now I know why you’re single. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago Thanks bro!! permalink fedilink source parent [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) What about all the women calling men dumb or whatever insult you want to throw in there? Why is it always one sided for you? Do you just prefer playing victim instead? I don’t get it. It’s a problem for both sexes. I’m starting to think YOU are the problem. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men. You won’t accept any responsibility. All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion? Good talk. This is where you get ghosted. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children) Ya I get it, the article is just about someone who is complaining that they can’t meet a decent guy. I guess I just don’t understand the point tho, because I can just write an article too complaining about all the shitty women out there, and then write a title that indicates that the whole reason marriages are dwindling is because of women. If you can’t meet a decent guy then chances are you are doing something wrong. That makes you the problem too. Maybe you hang out with the wrong crowd. Maybe you have poor judgement. Could be a lot of reasons, but pinning everything on “men suck” comes off as super disingenuous. I am not taking it personally, but just pointing out the fact that it take two to tango, and if it’s not working out for you then MAYBE you need to spend a little extra time on yourself instead of jumping to the blame game. We all have a lot of trouble with self reflection. I think this person gets a lot of negative reaction from their personality and they blame others for their failures. That’s how I read the article. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -6 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Eye roll. You’re clueless and I feel bad for you. Keep playing that victim card. Now I know why you’re single. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago Thanks bro!! permalink fedilink source parent [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) What about all the women calling men dumb or whatever insult you want to throw in there? Why is it always one sided for you? Do you just prefer playing victim instead? I don’t get it. It’s a problem for both sexes. I’m starting to think YOU are the problem. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men. You won’t accept any responsibility. All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion? Good talk. This is where you get ghosted. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children) Ya I get it, the article is just about someone who is complaining that they can’t meet a decent guy. I guess I just don’t understand the point tho, because I can just write an article too complaining about all the shitty women out there, and then write a title that indicates that the whole reason marriages are dwindling is because of women. If you can’t meet a decent guy then chances are you are doing something wrong. That makes you the problem too. Maybe you hang out with the wrong crowd. Maybe you have poor judgement. Could be a lot of reasons, but pinning everything on “men suck” comes off as super disingenuous. I am not taking it personally, but just pointing out the fact that it take two to tango, and if it’s not working out for you then MAYBE you need to spend a little extra time on yourself instead of jumping to the blame game. We all have a lot of trouble with self reflection. I think this person gets a lot of negative reaction from their personality and they blame others for their failures. That’s how I read the article. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -6 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Eye roll. You’re clueless and I feel bad for you. Keep playing that victim card. Now I know why you’re single. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago Thanks bro!! permalink fedilink source parent [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) What about all the women calling men dumb or whatever insult you want to throw in there? Why is it always one sided for you? Do you just prefer playing victim instead? I don’t get it. It’s a problem for both sexes. I’m starting to think YOU are the problem. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men. You won’t accept any responsibility. All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion? Good talk. This is where you get ghosted. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -6 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Eye roll. You’re clueless and I feel bad for you. Keep playing that victim card. Now I know why you’re single. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago Thanks bro!! permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Coreidan@lemmy.world -6 points 2 years ago* (1 child) Eye roll. You’re clueless and I feel bad for you. Keep playing that victim card. Now I know why you’re single. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago Thanks bro!! permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago Thanks bro!! permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone -2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) What about all the women calling men dumb or whatever insult you want to throw in there? Why is it always one sided for you? Do you just prefer playing victim instead? I don’t get it. It’s a problem for both sexes. I’m starting to think YOU are the problem. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men. You won’t accept any responsibility. All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion? Good talk. This is where you get ghosted. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -5 points 2 years ago (1 child) What about all the women calling men dumb or whatever insult you want to throw in there? Why is it always one sided for you? Do you just prefer playing victim instead? I don’t get it. It’s a problem for both sexes. I’m starting to think YOU are the problem. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men. You won’t accept any responsibility. All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion? Good talk. This is where you get ghosted. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men. You won’t accept any responsibility. All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion? Good talk. This is where you get ghosted. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Coreidan@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) No you’ve literally said it’s all the fault of men. You won’t accept any responsibility. All men suck. All women are the best. Right? Did I nail your opinion? Good talk. This is where you get ghosted. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Starglasses@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source parent