There's an argument to be made here that you shouldn't be using vulgar language when you know it'll be flagged. Just rephrase what you were saying. And if you feel you need to be vulgar in a place where it's not welcomed, it's probably not worth saying anyway.

I haven't downvoted anyone in this thread. You know you can check that, please blow up at someone who did.

And again, in this case, just don't use rude words in the first place.

Comments saying “You don’t have to self-censor here” and downvotes when you do so are a signal. If the downvotes bother you, you can edit your comment. If they don’t bother you enough for you to make such a small effort, then it shouldn’t matter because downvotes don’t do anything - they don’t reduce visibility to your comment and Lemmy doesn’t have a karma system.

If someone else who would’ve done the same thing sees the downvotes and the comments chiding you, then optimally they’ll realize they shouldn’t do the same thing in the future.

Which part of this do you think is a problem?