2 decades ago I got the cutest kitten from the local shelter. I loved that cat. Started to notice, he was getting increasingly skittish around me. I realized cuz... I didn't realize I was doing it, I was never mean. but whenever he'd jump on me, wake me up, scratch something... my freaked out, startled response I think started to scare him.

Would love to get another cat, but that it might become scared, uneasy around me... don't want to risk it.