In China it’s also illegal for gay couples to marry and adopt
Most American states only legalized same-sex marriage and adoption in the 2010s. Like America, China has socially conservative older generations and socially progressive younger generations. The country and its people are not monolithic, they're not some alien land where people are fundamentally different from here. Support for marriage equality is widespread and rising in China, they appear to be on the same track as America.
stop pretending like you care about LGBTQ rights
Stop making paranoid assumptions about people. How is anyone supposed to communicate when that is the dynamic?