▲ 200 ▼ What has been the biggest surprise about getting older? (lemmy.world) submitted 2 years ago by Bluetreefrog@lemmy.world [M] to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world 175 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world 30 points 2 years ago (1 child) How much everything still hurts. Physically, emotionally, everything. How much I hate that I'm still trucking away, trying to do the right thing. And it's so lonely. permalink fedilink source hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] hansl@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) It doesn’t have to be lonely. Just find some hobby and join a group. Most people younger or older feel great about having older people talk about projects and things they’re passionate about. It’s surprisingly welcoming. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world 15 points 2 years ago (1 child) It's kind of a privilege to have time or energy for things like that. I'm a single parent of abused children with significant mental health issues, and was a victim myself. Any time I find is spent maintaining my house or crying into my pillow. If my oldest manages to become a functional adult, maybe I'll eke out some scraps of energy. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] TheDoctorDonna@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago I hope you do. It's hard to parent through trauma, especially when you have to maintain a job as well. I'm sure you are a great parent though and your kids have their best chance at being functional adults because of you. Stay strong❤️ permalink fedilink source parent
[–] hansl@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) It doesn’t have to be lonely. Just find some hobby and join a group. Most people younger or older feel great about having older people talk about projects and things they’re passionate about. It’s surprisingly welcoming. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world 15 points 2 years ago (1 child) It's kind of a privilege to have time or energy for things like that. I'm a single parent of abused children with significant mental health issues, and was a victim myself. Any time I find is spent maintaining my house or crying into my pillow. If my oldest manages to become a functional adult, maybe I'll eke out some scraps of energy. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] TheDoctorDonna@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago I hope you do. It's hard to parent through trauma, especially when you have to maintain a job as well. I'm sure you are a great parent though and your kids have their best chance at being functional adults because of you. Stay strong❤️ permalink fedilink source parent
[–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world 15 points 2 years ago (1 child) It's kind of a privilege to have time or energy for things like that. I'm a single parent of abused children with significant mental health issues, and was a victim myself. Any time I find is spent maintaining my house or crying into my pillow. If my oldest manages to become a functional adult, maybe I'll eke out some scraps of energy. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] TheDoctorDonna@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago I hope you do. It's hard to parent through trauma, especially when you have to maintain a job as well. I'm sure you are a great parent though and your kids have their best chance at being functional adults because of you. Stay strong❤️ permalink fedilink source parent
[–] TheDoctorDonna@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago I hope you do. It's hard to parent through trauma, especially when you have to maintain a job as well. I'm sure you are a great parent though and your kids have their best chance at being functional adults because of you. Stay strong❤️ permalink fedilink source parent