Totally fair, but still does contribute to OE and some other struggles that those poor beautiful insects really could do without.

I applaud your orientation towards native planting.

https://gardeningsolutions.ifas.ufl.edu/plants/ornamentals/native-milkweeds/

Straight from University of Florida, I trust this guide and know that incarnata and tuberosa are highly adaptable. Would be fun to include some of those other less common species too.