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Would you date a workaholic? [DuckDuckGo Sociology] (sh.itjust.works)
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I'm a guy who has been dating a woman for several months. She is self-employed and I swear about 20% of our conversations is her explaining all the things she has to do every day that may prevent her from being able to commit to seeing me. She swears she just got backed up on things and she'll become more available, but I see her inventory continuing to grow, not shrink. She is also constantly supervising people on a variety of house projects (mutual disinterest in me getting involved there).

So I decided to ask the internet (DuckDuckGo (DDG) specifically): Am I dating a workaholic? What I found surprised me. I imagined I'd find a bunch of stupid little Cosmo-style quizzes, with the understanding that the reader would find out they were dating an workaholic and leave the relationship. Instead what I found was article after article after article with titles like,

  • How to Date a Workaholic: 8 Steps (with Pictures)
  • Dating a Workaholic (13 Tips to Make It Work)
  • 12 Tips to Cope when Dating a Workaholic

The internet is assuming I WANT to date a workaholic.

Contrast that with results to the question Am I dating someone emotionally unavailable? DDG more straightforwardly answer the question ("17 Signs Someone is Emotionally Unavailable") with a sprinkling of advice for how to cope.

I see workaholism as basically identical to emotional unavailability, but obviously it's treated differently by society (maybe because it comes with money and home repairs?). So what is going on? Would you date a workaholic?

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[–] 3 points 3 hours ago (1 child)

Think he wanted quizzes and articles. And reddit posts, for instance - testimony. It makes sense to me, because those 3 things are qualitative and anecdotal and thus provide more of a human interaction feel. What OP ultimately needed was to talk it over with people.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 2 hours ago* (1 child)

    Well, since that guy's blocked me, is there anything wrong with asking a question of a search engine? Two things are:

    1. SEO might optimize for the questions the site answers.
    2. It doesn´t matter how you phrase it, search engines today pull you towards the same results from an average of your keywords. I've gotten really frustrated trying to filter search results the way I used to do because all the results are the same no matter what I try.

    I wasn't particularly looking for testimony--that's what I'm getting here--more a nuanced description of workaholism because she's self-employed and that makes things a little hazier than someone who is "forced" to be at the office for 60 hours a week.

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