You keep trying to pick one of two extremes when the truth is in the middle. We are biological machines. We make choices based on our beliefs and feelings. Everyone has personhood and is accountable for their choices, we share reality.
So while I do not believe in free will, I do believe it is worthwhile to consider our choices and their repercussions.
It can be difficult for me to be civil. I am deeply concerned about humanity harming itself by drifting away from reality. I am angry at my parents and people like them, people making selfish choices that harm others. They justify it by denying reason and distorting reality.
I have to consciously remind myself of a few things, like that my parents were wrong, and that rage, even when justified, is often counterproductive.
Thank you for your patience.