Russia is not some innocent nubile country. They have been terrorizing and occupying countries for a very long time. They don't give a shit what the west thinks because they are their own empire with no willingness to cooperate or be told what to do.
If they choose to continue to wage imperialistic war, they deserve destruction. If they decide to stop being pieces of shit, then it seems reasonable to talk to them at that point. The west was very welcoming to them during the 90s and 2000s, when they were at least trying to act somewhat normal.