Just toying with the idea here. I am thinking about proposing in the next year and I never expected I would be in this position.
My sister was just proposed to and dude must have spent like 10 grand on the ring. I think she feels like he spent too much. It looks like the friggin thing weighs her whole hand down.
Also do you think it is misogynist to ask the lady's dad for permission?
Dad here. I'd fall flat on my ass if some boyfriend came to me asking permission - pretty sure it won't happen given the way we rose our daughters.
Fun unrelated to marriage fact: I once had my SO check the front window of a jewelry shop to "pick her favourite" - the stated game was that if we both silently picked the same I'd buy it for her. Some 30+ years later she still wears it on her ring finger. No stone, a ladder of white gold encasing gold stars.