Oh, are we going to go down the "Jews can't be antisemitic" slide now?

A cultural problem needs multiple cultural influences to fix it. You can't balkanize or ghettoize it, then walk away and say "well, that's a problem for just those people, and their community to discuss". All of a culture has to be against racism to make an antiracist culture.

Also, you're not the gestapo of standpoint epistemology... And races themselves aren't unified in opinions. Sometimes there's a general unity, but because opinions do vary between individuals and from race to race... And because people of ANY race can be racist to ANY race (including their own) - we have to operate as a whole culture.

"What race are you to be talking about this?" whilst perhaps well meaning, may also be a kind of defensive use of racialization (standpoint epistemology).

When I say things like Pakistanis aren't fragile to reading a word that's not being said with offensive intentions (they do already know these slurs) I say that because I don't believe anyone is so fragile that explaining the usage of a slur they already know is harmful.

...and if it is, they should take time away from such discussions to deal with that trauma, because like I say, ultimately you need a whole society to have healthy and mature attitudes towards being and becoming anti-racist.

Tell me your race so that I - your moral superior can determine your qualifications, moral standing, and rights on the issue.

May actually be:

I want to know how much this conversation could hurt my reputation.

Which I understand, but we have to move past these individual fears and problems if we're going to solve the systemic cultural whole. Part of which is having and spreading THIS type of discussion to other people from an antiracist perspective, so thank you for helping and participating in that.