Girls having it worse doesnt Make the rape of boys irrelevant

I think we can all agree that rape and pedophilia is a heinous crime that isn't taken nearly as seriously as it should, especially like all crimes when the perpetrator is rich.

But let's not place one gender as the oppressor and the other as the victim. That's not what the patriarchy is and that's not what pedophilia and rape victim statistics say. The patriarchy is the dominant social structure and it is helmed by a small group of men of extreme privilege. Below them is a mix of men and women varying in gender mix and privilege until you get to the bottom which is filled in large part by homeless men because the hierarchy punishes men who don't accept it particularly harshly. The poorest women generally "need to be protected" because paternalistic protection of women is a core (and sexist) value of the patriarchy.

The point is not to say one gender has it better or worse, there is no doubt that on the whole the patriarchy favours men. The point is that the while the issue of rape a pedophilia is a GENDERED issue, it's not a men vs women thing. Men aren't high-fiving rapists for raping girls. I can't go to a single one of my friends or any stranger and get anything but a call to the police if I said "I raped a 16y old girl". Women aren't always the victims, sometimes the victims are boys, sometimes the perpetrators are women. Women aren't 100% treated worse in every case, it's a known fact, such as in this prosecution that women are treated more leniently by the courts. The average prosecution for statutory is ~40 months, she got 3.

Rape and pedophilia are horrible problems and we aren't even close to a society that creates justice for victims, but the attitude you have on the topic just muddles the problem further instead of helping towards a solution. If you can get past your ideology and accept all the facts of the situation you'll be a much more effective advocate for victims.

A 16 year old cannot consent to sexual acts with sokeone in that Situation - especially given power dynamics and alcohol being involved

That’s the “statutory” part of statutory rape. We as society recognize that power imbalance and grooming are potential scenarios, and can have a less powerful/younger person consenting to something they otherwise would not.

For example, if a cop has someone in handcuffs. We as society recognize that there is an inherent power imbalance, and that the person in handcuffs may be pressured into agreeing to things that they otherwise would not.

Or as another example, if a child is groomed by an adult. We recognize that children are easier to manipulate, and can be groomed to agree to things that they would not have done without being manipulated.

And so society writes criminal laws (statutes) that define these various scenarios, and courts then interpret these statutes and apply them to individual cases as rulings. And if the courts find that a person has violated these laws, the person is guilty of rape by statute. Statutory rape.

For example, maybe a state has a law saying that an adult having sex with a child is considered rape, unless that adult is within 3 years of age with the child. So an 18 year old high school senior won’t get in trouble for banging a 16 year old high school junior. But a 35 year old would be guilty of statutory rape.