Like my big tiddy goth wife? (Not pharm tech tho :( )

Um... I mean, the above description is a fleshed out caricature, not a description of any one person, nor a prediction about how peoples lives generally turn out.

But with that caveat in place, I will say that I don't think the aesthetic really matters. The important part is being able to grow as a person and not make an aesthetic the whole of your identity. The bodybuilder working at Enterprise, the wine mom still talking about partying like she's in her sorority, Napoleon's uncle talking about how he coulda gone pro if only coach had put him in - they all create the same mix of annoyance, disdain, and pity. They all got stuck on some aesthetic or identity which created a response they wanted from their peers, and now they can't move on, nor realize that what was important to them before isn't anymore.

The question isn't if the goth girl was goth in high school. It is - is she happy? Is she out there living her best life, loving doing the things she enjoys and working hard to improve the things she doesn't? Is her gothiness a freely-given expression for her conception of her own beauty, rather than a costume put on for reaction and validation? These are the important things.