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[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 22 points 4 months ago* (4 children) Why should the biological stigma matter when the only remaining stigma would have been social? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [–] Trex202@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago Homophobia masked as incestphobia (not sure if real word...) permalink fedilink source parent [–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 6 points 4 months ago (1 child) Power dynamics, access/grooming to family members. The issue isn't about reproduction, though neither of those would apply in this scenario where we assume they were estranged. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 months ago (1 child) Seems like none of those apply here though. These two didn't even know they were brothers until they were already together romantically. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 2 points 4 months ago I said that. permalink fedilink source parent [–] finallymadeanaccount@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago misread stigma as smegma permalink fedilink source parent [–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago (2 children) I'm not sure what biological stigma is supposed to mean. Sexual relations between siblings gives most people the ick regardless of technicalities, and that is a social stigma, the only kind of stigma I'm aware of. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Grass@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 months ago* (1 child) I think that's all shit we are taught. In highschool there was a brother and sister in the grade above me that were notoriously very clingy with each other and their parents didn't let them take sex ed because that class needed parental sign off and the bible was the only teacher they needed or some stupid shit. Anyway they were seen fucking in the storage room when extra chairs were needed for an event. People just passed it off as twins stuff before, then after it was twins stuff permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago Yes, these are social norms, and those are taught. permalink fedilink source parent [–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) "Biological stigma" would refer to the effects of having an incestuous child. "Social stigma" would refer to the sexual relationship between people in a close familial relationship, which is clearly not the case since they had no prior relationship. Since these men wouldn't fall under either category, what other stigma is there? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't think we're using the same definition of stigma. Stigma is a profound, unfair negative belief or stereotype attached to a person or group, causing shame, social rejection, and discrimination. I'm having a hard time making any of the stuff you're saying make sense with that definition, and the whole word is inherently social. The fact is that a lot of people think it's nasty to fuck your brother, and that you should stop fucking him when you realize you're related to him. I see the nuance in this situation, but a lot of people don't, and if they maintain the relationship they will have to deal with those people. It's already hard enough to deal with homophobia without this on top. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't understand how you can read that definition and not comprehend my comment. Perhaps you could explain in your own words what the stigma here should be. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago* U/bus_factor means society’s stigma when they say “social stigma”. They are trying to communicate that society is grossed out by all relationships between family - whether they are blood related or not, whether they know each other as family members or not. Any whiff of relatedness is enough to condemn the relationship even if the reasons don’t really make sense. Society finds it gross. You’re talking about specifically the “don’t fuck someone you grew up with even if they’re not your blood relative” rule, which is a stigma about our social relationships, a “social stigma”, but not what prev was meaning when they used that term. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Trex202@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago Homophobia masked as incestphobia (not sure if real word...) permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 6 points 4 months ago (1 child) Power dynamics, access/grooming to family members. The issue isn't about reproduction, though neither of those would apply in this scenario where we assume they were estranged. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 months ago (1 child) Seems like none of those apply here though. These two didn't even know they were brothers until they were already together romantically. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 2 points 4 months ago I said that. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 months ago (1 child) Seems like none of those apply here though. These two didn't even know they were brothers until they were already together romantically. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 2 points 4 months ago I said that. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] finallymadeanaccount@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago misread stigma as smegma permalink fedilink source parent
[–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago (2 children) I'm not sure what biological stigma is supposed to mean. Sexual relations between siblings gives most people the ick regardless of technicalities, and that is a social stigma, the only kind of stigma I'm aware of. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Grass@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 months ago* (1 child) I think that's all shit we are taught. In highschool there was a brother and sister in the grade above me that were notoriously very clingy with each other and their parents didn't let them take sex ed because that class needed parental sign off and the bible was the only teacher they needed or some stupid shit. Anyway they were seen fucking in the storage room when extra chairs were needed for an event. People just passed it off as twins stuff before, then after it was twins stuff permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago Yes, these are social norms, and those are taught. permalink fedilink source parent [–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) "Biological stigma" would refer to the effects of having an incestuous child. "Social stigma" would refer to the sexual relationship between people in a close familial relationship, which is clearly not the case since they had no prior relationship. Since these men wouldn't fall under either category, what other stigma is there? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't think we're using the same definition of stigma. Stigma is a profound, unfair negative belief or stereotype attached to a person or group, causing shame, social rejection, and discrimination. I'm having a hard time making any of the stuff you're saying make sense with that definition, and the whole word is inherently social. The fact is that a lot of people think it's nasty to fuck your brother, and that you should stop fucking him when you realize you're related to him. I see the nuance in this situation, but a lot of people don't, and if they maintain the relationship they will have to deal with those people. It's already hard enough to deal with homophobia without this on top. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't understand how you can read that definition and not comprehend my comment. Perhaps you could explain in your own words what the stigma here should be. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago* U/bus_factor means society’s stigma when they say “social stigma”. They are trying to communicate that society is grossed out by all relationships between family - whether they are blood related or not, whether they know each other as family members or not. Any whiff of relatedness is enough to condemn the relationship even if the reasons don’t really make sense. Society finds it gross. You’re talking about specifically the “don’t fuck someone you grew up with even if they’re not your blood relative” rule, which is a stigma about our social relationships, a “social stigma”, but not what prev was meaning when they used that term. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Grass@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 months ago* (1 child) I think that's all shit we are taught. In highschool there was a brother and sister in the grade above me that were notoriously very clingy with each other and their parents didn't let them take sex ed because that class needed parental sign off and the bible was the only teacher they needed or some stupid shit. Anyway they were seen fucking in the storage room when extra chairs were needed for an event. People just passed it off as twins stuff before, then after it was twins stuff permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago Yes, these are social norms, and those are taught. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago Yes, these are social norms, and those are taught. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) "Biological stigma" would refer to the effects of having an incestuous child. "Social stigma" would refer to the sexual relationship between people in a close familial relationship, which is clearly not the case since they had no prior relationship. Since these men wouldn't fall under either category, what other stigma is there? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't think we're using the same definition of stigma. Stigma is a profound, unfair negative belief or stereotype attached to a person or group, causing shame, social rejection, and discrimination. I'm having a hard time making any of the stuff you're saying make sense with that definition, and the whole word is inherently social. The fact is that a lot of people think it's nasty to fuck your brother, and that you should stop fucking him when you realize you're related to him. I see the nuance in this situation, but a lot of people don't, and if they maintain the relationship they will have to deal with those people. It's already hard enough to deal with homophobia without this on top. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't understand how you can read that definition and not comprehend my comment. Perhaps you could explain in your own words what the stigma here should be. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago* U/bus_factor means society’s stigma when they say “social stigma”. They are trying to communicate that society is grossed out by all relationships between family - whether they are blood related or not, whether they know each other as family members or not. Any whiff of relatedness is enough to condemn the relationship even if the reasons don’t really make sense. Society finds it gross. You’re talking about specifically the “don’t fuck someone you grew up with even if they’re not your blood relative” rule, which is a stigma about our social relationships, a “social stigma”, but not what prev was meaning when they used that term. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't think we're using the same definition of stigma. Stigma is a profound, unfair negative belief or stereotype attached to a person or group, causing shame, social rejection, and discrimination. I'm having a hard time making any of the stuff you're saying make sense with that definition, and the whole word is inherently social. The fact is that a lot of people think it's nasty to fuck your brother, and that you should stop fucking him when you realize you're related to him. I see the nuance in this situation, but a lot of people don't, and if they maintain the relationship they will have to deal with those people. It's already hard enough to deal with homophobia without this on top. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't understand how you can read that definition and not comprehend my comment. Perhaps you could explain in your own words what the stigma here should be. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago* U/bus_factor means society’s stigma when they say “social stigma”. They are trying to communicate that society is grossed out by all relationships between family - whether they are blood related or not, whether they know each other as family members or not. Any whiff of relatedness is enough to condemn the relationship even if the reasons don’t really make sense. Society finds it gross. You’re talking about specifically the “don’t fuck someone you grew up with even if they’re not your blood relative” rule, which is a stigma about our social relationships, a “social stigma”, but not what prev was meaning when they used that term. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago (1 child) I don't understand how you can read that definition and not comprehend my comment. Perhaps you could explain in your own words what the stigma here should be. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago* U/bus_factor means society’s stigma when they say “social stigma”. They are trying to communicate that society is grossed out by all relationships between family - whether they are blood related or not, whether they know each other as family members or not. Any whiff of relatedness is enough to condemn the relationship even if the reasons don’t really make sense. Society finds it gross. You’re talking about specifically the “don’t fuck someone you grew up with even if they’re not your blood relative” rule, which is a stigma about our social relationships, a “social stigma”, but not what prev was meaning when they used that term. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 1 point 4 months ago* U/bus_factor means society’s stigma when they say “social stigma”. They are trying to communicate that society is grossed out by all relationships between family - whether they are blood related or not, whether they know each other as family members or not. Any whiff of relatedness is enough to condemn the relationship even if the reasons don’t really make sense. Society finds it gross. You’re talking about specifically the “don’t fuck someone you grew up with even if they’re not your blood relative” rule, which is a stigma about our social relationships, a “social stigma”, but not what prev was meaning when they used that term. permalink fedilink source parent
