Don't sell yourself short with meeting woman. It's hard to meet people, it's not just you, no one can meet people well now, and we are at the mercy of online dating, which could be putting their thumbs on the scale against you without you ever knowing. You can and will find someone, whether you have kids or not, woman have not rejected you, you just haven't met the right woman yet, as you haven't been in a position to meet them yet. Join groups around your interests and meet people, you will get there.

That all said, I know what you mean, the left is overrun by divisive people, it's said half of people join left groups to kick the other half out. And any groups seem to be filled with cliques more intent on keeping control of the group and any revenues it produces than achieving any actual goal. The divisive people you are dealing with there are the worst to deal with too, those are the ones that the right wing media/influencers find, interview, highlight, to paint an insufferable caricature of "the left," that is used to tar the entire group.

It works too, for instance the classic is they find the sassy young woman to tell them that whites are going to be a minority soon (kind of a misnomer anyway, whites won't be larger than all the other minorities combined, they will still be the largest group,) and then things are going to change and so forth. It's incredibly damaging, and just plain wrong. We are in a class struggle and race is just used to divide us; and framing issues like that prevents getting support to change the issue.

But they play up the fear of minorities rigging the game against whites, all while pitting white verses minorities, when it's the monied interests that are making life hard, cheating us, rigging the game against us all.

That is why the organized interests frame our issues like that, why when we make a point about how after the new deal a job could pay for a family with a dignified life. They will break in well minorities were mistreated, and try to change the subject.

First of all, minumum wage applied to all non farm workers, so minorities got it as well. Second of all at no point in human history was anything perfect, if you discount everything from a period because they didn't live in an egalitarian society where injustice didn't exist, there would be no time in history you could use, no person you could admire, especially not our own time, and anyone alive now. The sheer ridiculousness of the logic is maddening but it' is used to great effect to derail real conversations, and campaigns.

We do want your help fighting, and we want to help fight. It's just we have no leadership, and no organization, and are being led by the enemy in effect. We are purposefully set against each other, misdirected, and led to fight under people that cannot and will not win, in doomed to fail strategies, leaders whose reason for being is preventing popular reform, not beating the other guys or achieving the stated goals of the organization. All of our resulting energies are wasted as such, or misdirected, we are attacked, criticized, our allies are goaded into attacking us, or quieting us, recruitng us to fall in line behind leaders that can't and won't win. All while being associated with charicatures of insufferable people used to alienate us and our campaigns from the general public.

It's all because we don't have organization, and leadership. Without that, we cannot fight no matter what the subject. We are sticking our necks out for nothing, and earn nothing but grief that ultimately stems from those that want to prevent change, as they manipulate us all, with no one to direct our efforts in an organized credible fashion. Step 1 is to organize, and amongst other things find popular reform minded leadership.