If you believe people would act the same in person as they do online if there's no one around to judge them, I have a bridge to sell you.

I do act like I do online, I'm typically grumpy, but will help when asked.

With women, I'm a bit more awkward, but force myself to interact, so I got friends there. Not even trying to go romance or you know, fuck anyone atm.

I feel an almost smug superiority to my co-workers because I'm not afraid to hitch a ride with a woman. They don't act weird in a woman's presence, but talk sexualy about that same one all the time.