I stayed too long, because I felt bad for my ex and ended up doing things that I never would have considered, and haven't since. Really fell apart.

But yes, I was trying to hold the family together, because it didn't seem like a permanent change, so five years with nothing.

Then a dramatic blowout of the relationship.

I decided sex wasn't something I was willing to compromise on (ex was only ever a once a week guy, so it was a compromise to begin with, and was not comfortable with me wanting more than he did, it's unladylike, needy, unattractive)

And husband now, we have sex every day and if I want it more he is happy about it. That's a better fit, and it makes a big difference.