We were trying, yes.

Also back to your relationship question that I probably didn't answer. I already know someone in advanced age with a kid and they have a great relationship. I haven't even considered it. As long as I live a while longer I'm sure I'll have a healthy relationship. I'm quite a chill person and young at heart and genuinely don't see that as an issue.

If anything I think it might even be better! I genuinely think it will be beneficial that I'm not trying to grow up at the same time as my kid and can act as a caring and relaxed parent without any additional stress.