Ok so this feels like justification for my experiences on lemmy arent exclusive to me and are actually evident to users other than me; in regards to how different my experiences on lemmy discussing most shit are compared to discussing shit with people in real life are?

Im not talking shit, its just something Ive noticed for a while and have put a ton of thought into. I mean Im fully aware this js very niche platform that appeals to anyone knowledgeable enough to program an application's interface. While at the same time is very unappealing for everyone else in the world who hears API and their first thought is about one single private investigator.

Its been fascinating to observe as someone close to 40y/o who never sent or rcvd an email outside of schools/college homework until I was in my early 30s and got my first job as a desk jockey.

That domino fell, then buying a PC fell, followed by building a PC falling which happened a cunt hair before the current AMD sockets hit the market, which obviously forced my hand to immediately build my second PC in the same calender year, and all the remaining dominos fell that were standing between me being the last person to give up their flip phone and me consumed with learning everything there is to know about anything remotely related to technology.

So for me Lemmy has been my introduction to the same industry sized community all the computer nerds have buried their heads in their whole life. Which makes everything all the more interesting to me cuz I get to simultaneasly experience a very intimate sized community evolve while also being able to people watch 40,000 users interact almost daily and feel like im peering thru the looking glass observing it all feeling almost like an outsider or alien observing an isolated environment.

I feel like there are so many people here who have grown up surrounded by IT focused friends and groups that they dont even really notice how like minded a gathering of people with shared interests, shared industry employment, and shared educational fields actually are.

Totally not bitching about hivemind this or that but I've jumped industries enough to know the saying birds of a feather flock together is wild for how accurate it is.

I love everything about Lemmy but it does concern me how contagious sentiments can be here. Like I came following the reddit api scandal when shit was all bright eyed and bushy tailed. Then I started noticing it like a slow landslide consuming everything accross communities & instances, this unsettling mentality that everything sucks, the world is doomed, anyone who finds the silver lining in something is just wrong and/or stupid/nieve. Its not everyone obviously but its fuckin consuming and wildly contagious.

Again anecdotal to me but... as someone whose only source of news is lemmy, hasn't had any social media accounts in over a decade, and has every other social interaction with other humans in person, in real life, in real time, with friends family buissness relations from accross all walks of life, tax brackets, industries from living everywhere from rural bum fuck nowhere to every block of my beautiful queen city Metropolitan neighborhoods... I feel like my adhd tendencies havedriven allowed me a clarity most people don't have for avoiding getting consumed by the herd.

This being one of those exact situations and the first time anyone else has brought it up. I prefaced my comment saying im aware my input will be unpopular and I prefaced my comment in hopes the discussion wouldn't get twisted into the only 2 black and white options discussed on the topic of vaccines. Either you want everyone to live or you are actively trying to kill everyone. I even gave real world examples that are unanimously regarded as being hugely successful as to why I understand where the unpopular penguin people are coming from. Those being the massively reduced number of nicotine addicted cig smokers and drastically increasing covid vaccinations in my area. Both without legislative mandates or prohibition. Taking every precaution to preserve the purpose of opening discussions by providing a preface that specifies the comment is anecdotal and that the people who hold these opinions are also ALL VACCINATED. Maybe I should've made it a bolder font or something cuz every other comment responding to mine is focused on not understanding how someone can decide to be willing to kill everyone, or about how they can justify hating america because they got there thru all the correct reasons.

The only complaint i have on this topic tho, is that I know there are users who agree with some of the shit I spew by means of the up and down votes but, and im only assuming, they vote without commenting because every comment that 100% conforms with Lemmy's unified opinion gets all upvotes, no downvotes creating an atmosphere that makes it so difficult to discuss topics that might have the name Musk, or Trump, or Windows 11, or sports, or billionaires. -last tangent i swear- im sorry but I will die on the hill that Warren Buffet is a goddamn hero amongst men. I agree fuck the rest of the lot but dont shit on the only billionaire who has put money where his mouth is by using every cent he has every used towards political lobbying, or charitable contributions in support of raising taxes for the rich, strengthening resources for women and underprivileged groups, improving education, plus a list of other programs lemmy is in full support of. Plus he made every penny he is worth by investing according the operating integrity of a company and the current valuation of said company. He has been autisticly cool since before autism was being diagnosed.

Tldr: I wish more users discussed more topics in ways that are less black and white. There are no karma points, you wont lose a nut for discussing something you prolly will get ignored for or at worst downvoted over.